Empathy's Troubles

I am very empathic as well and have been having similar problems. I'm having a hard time being able to block out peoples thoughts and feelings everywhere I go. I see a couple in walmart and know he beats her. As a waitress I have refused tables- one of them I know was a murderer. It has ruined friendship and caused me to avoid so much. We scare people! They don't like the thought that someone can get into their head. We can't be lied to and people feel like we are invading their privacy- which we kind of are- but we can't help it. I've become as secret as I can and I don't want to live a life like that anymore. I'm ready to embrace it and use it to make me a better person and help others whenever I can. I've been reading the comments and I no longer feel alone. I'm learning that I have to control my own emotions before I can block others. I too believe it is a blessing and a curse. I don't try to read anyone- I can't control it. At almost 33- it's progressively getting stronger with age. One huge lesson I've learned though- if you know someone is going to die- do not intervene with God's work and tell them or their family. Generally not a good idea, although you have to listen to your intuition under the specific circumstance. Just so good to feel not so alone- thanx

What I have to say is this, if you decide to take the route of healing NEVER envision taking in their pain, it can be crippling. I first tried it on someone who had massive mental turmoil and I didn't think it through all the way, I just took in the bad and if that wasn't careless enough, I was making physical contact with a known ex devil follower and the young man in question. It was horrible, I can't explain how bad it was in words, don't ever do it, if you value your sanity and your physical well-being, don't ever do it. However, the strategy another user posted works wonderfully. I broke my ankle and I was so sick and tired of the medication's side-effects that I tried it (before I read this actually) and I was actually able to completely stop taking the pills a few months after surgery. I had to keep doing it to keep the pain away but it worked, it worked better than any medication.

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Well it's not so fun being drunk is it? 😜

Just kidding.

But I kind of have what you have. I feel my best friend's pain and emotions. I suffer when she has a headache, stomach ache, you name it. I even get her cramps! 😐

I'm learning to control it though.

Good luck with you.

Taylor ❤

well you are a empath and you need to learn to seperate your emotions from other one way to do that is to learn to control your emotions and learn to lock them away (I know it sounds inhuman) but trust me learn to lock them away I lock mine away in my heart by forcing them there and making a barrier around my heart I find it easier to block just my heart over my whole body

I am an empath too. I can tell if someone hates me or not. But I remained silent whenever I experienced that. By the way use your ability for good and for helping others under the laws of our god in our own beliefs. I am a christian and I always keep in my mind and my heart that my ability is a gift of god jesus christ. And I am a pro christ Amen 😁

Hi Manuel,

Wow! What a ride! At least you now know where all this is coming from. You can mostly tell when they're not your feelings. This is a wonderful place to start. I went for almost 50 years and didn't understand I was picking up other people's vibrations. Phew!

The advice given about NOT drinking is great advice. Drinking lowers our spiritual vibration and allows all sorts of negative energies to come in and disturb us unnecessarily. If everybody could understand what drugs and alcohol do to us psychically it would be a much better world. I have one drink maybe six times a year... If that? When I do have that small drink I make sure I'm in the right frame of mind and with the right people at the right place, etc. However, even one drink takes away some of our self-control and NOT drinking at all is a good option for people who are more psychically aware - especially in the beginning when you're more vulnerable.

The visualization exercises suggested to you are excellent. Actually, I find that you can begin to trust and use your own intuition and you will learn that way what works best for you. I don't restrict myself wholly to the teachings of others. I merely use them as guidelines and use my own intuition... Your gut feeling about a thing (your 'knowing').

If you have used visualization (protection/white light/etc) and you still get some particular feeling then you will need to determine (know) whether it is your feeling or whether it belongs to someone else. Then you might ask 'why'?

Empaths can have great healing abilities. You (if you choose) can learn to work 'with' your gift to help others. When you start to help others you will find you have less and less random 'bad' experiences and more and more useful and meaningful experiences.

If you are interested in learning about your potential healing ability you can find a spiritual healer (use your intuition to find someone who feels right for you - trust is very important). With healing I firstly ask to be cleansed of negative energy (you can transfer this to others as you know) and I ground myself (imagine your feet growing tree roots into the ground and wrapping round a crystal of your choice if you like); then I ask God (the Divine/Jesus/etc) to bring through that which would be most beneficial to this person at this time. (They mostly sit in a chair and I stand behind them.) Then you can place your hands on their shoulders or head (use your intuition again) and just wait for the energy to flow as it will. You will learn when you are finished. This may take five minutes or longer - you be the judge. With healing you don't have to 'do' anything. You don't have to force yourself to think healing thoughts or any such thing. Just 'allow' the energy to flow. You can add visualization to this later if you feel it's right for you.

It's quite amazing when you try it at first. Perhaps you could try it on someone you trust - someone understanding before you startle the world at large!

People will feel warmth where you're touching them and also sometimes other parts of their body - particularly where they may have pain or an injury of which you are unaware. They may feel tingling in their feet and they will often feel so very relaxed and wonderful. Some people see visions and you may even get messages (or visions) to give them also.

Some people feel nothing and that is ok too. Learn to be let it be ok with you also when they don't feel anything or understand your gift.

Healing is channeled through empaths and others - we don't 'do' the healing. It is a loving gift you can give others if they choose. The hardest part is knowing you can help someone and knowing they don't want your help. That is sad.

When you need a teacher, a teacher will appear. As your intention is to learn you will find your teachers. If you choose the path of healing it is not so easy but very rewarding. We all have choices with our psychic ability and it would be good if we could learn to become more spiritual as this will give us the protection we need as we raise our spiritual vibration.

One more thing: I also clear negative energy from places I might be visiting. I also do this for others before I send them distance healing. I visualize this as white light or colors pouring into the building... You can visualize this in your own way (sparkling gold and silver, swirling rainbow colors, whatever you like). As you progress your own energy field will become stronger and cleaner and more beautiful and others will notice. It's quite extraordinary. Your 'intent' is everything - have the right intent and enjoy your gift. Don't be afraid. Do everything with love and don't be too hard on yourself when you feel you don't get things right. Just go with the flow!

Victor Zammit (look him up if you like) has some wonderful, free information for people on all kinds of psychic facts and spiritual information. Again, as we are all psychic, be guided by your OWN intuition... Your first thought... That 'small voice' that we often miss.

Sometimes a new, spiritual direction will also mean making new friends and leaving some old friends behind. Sometimes they will want to get away from you and if this happens just love them and move on with your new path. You won't lose a thing by trusting your own divine connection to God - your intuition.

I am nothing special - if I can do it you can too. It's a wonderful journey... Enjoy.

I'm so sorry. YOu've got that physical empathy. I know how it is. I've got the emotional and phyiscal empathy. It's hard so just try and focus on one thing and block everything else out.

I live in a college dormroom, so I tend to pick up on depression, sexual desire, aggression, and frustration easily. But ironically, I tend to loose my ability when I drink, it almost numbs the effect. I guess everyone's gift works in a different way, even if they share the same one.

you have a gift. Don't be afraid! Please, don't be afraid. There are a lot of people that can help you, please hold on. You're special. And, if I were you, I'd stop drinking. If you are an empath, you are very sensible, and when you are drunk you become evn more sensible, which means the emotions can get to you even faster and stronger. Good luck.

I feel everything the person next to me feels, Crowds are exhausting, I have always known what someone else wants to hear, and have used this to my advantage (for which there is a lot of guilt on my part) I have blocked this for sooo long. I seem to make people uncomfortable, I can sit in complete silence and make people uncomfortable. I dream of places, people I have never seen before until it happens. I can nolonger block this like I have in the past. Can anyone help? R

Oh, it seems like your problem's much bigger than mine. Mine has got softer this time, I don't know, before it was as if it activated in the worst places or as if I needed lot of people to do it, now it happens just sometimes (less times than before) and not between tons of people.

Oh, little_black_wolf, if you're native american I'm very happy that you embrace your ancestors' beliefs, I'm tired of people taking stolen the celtic pantheon and forgotting other wise cults around in the world.

Blessed be.

Just so you know I have just registered so if anyone wants to send advice, go ahead.

i have the smae problem only mines on a different level... Sort of. I get hit with the thoughts and then the emotions... The thing is, I can be alone and it happens. We moved a little over a uyear ago and the house is crawling with spirits, sprites, or what ever you want to call them. My parents keep arguing and everytime they do the hosility attracts more things.
when I was younger I was into wicca...well, mainly native american beliefs since I'm 2 different kinds of native american. I found and contacted my sprirt guide: a wolf. I find that when I'm afriad, I picture a wolf and it helps me cope. But that's only with mortal problems. When it comes to things like these spirits I feel anger and sadness and unbearable pain. Ill be on the computer and black out only to wake up in my room with everything destroyed. I can't take it. For ayear I was depressed off of emotions that wernt mine and tried suicide. It was horrible and changed me deep inside. I can't keep doing this... I try to avoid it but it won't leave me alone. When I get scared, things break. When I concentrate too hard like with my homework or by looking at the computer when it takes to long to load, itll go black, or the book will fly from the table. I need to learn how to control it. I feel like a ticking bomb!

help,how do I stop getting to emotional for other people, I am so tired of suffering when its not my problem, I help people as much as I can but then I can't let things go, just seeing and feelings any ones pain is really hard to take, I can't shut down, I also see the future and this gets to me to

hi I just sent you an email. Lol so I thaught I'd check out your entrys. You have strong empathy abilities and it's both a blessing and a burden all at the same time. You can help your friends and other people with this but it is also a good thing to block out when your feeling as if you cannot handle it. It takes practice and patience to block out felings of others so before you try blocking it out try going on the subway or in groups of people and visualising a sphere of pink energy around your entire body. This can also be gold but no other colours. This energy has to be yours and you have to keep it around your whole body to protect bad feelings. You should only attract good and loving feelings, this technique is also good if yor feeling crappy. You have to project it to protect you so just visualise it around yourself glowing. I'd prpbably not try it on the subway first though. Now to block out completelyjust picture white. This will block out any. You can also picture brick walls with peple you don't know. It is verry important when visualising this energy to really feel and telling yourself that it's protecting you. This is a way for your mind to block it out. If you want to you could tell some of your friends so that they understand. If you have any more questions don't hesitate to ask. One more thing. If you really want to cast out your senses and feel again. Just open up your mind or visualise yourself casting out a net. Feel your spirit looking inide anothers soul. Best of luck
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ha-ha, I know what you mean... That feeling of people invading you... And that pressure... The pressure your right with a snap of a finger feel when you go near people. That's one source of my headaches...people's...aura's and whatnot... And let me tell you someday's it can be down right sickening haha, and you just want to be in your own little secluded spot. One major thing I have learned to do, is to always keep in sync beats... We have different beats of the body... From regular breathing to your own self... If that makes sense... And you can be misbalanced if your around people... I can get like that all the time, if I don't remind myself, it's highly important for me so I don't get so sick like that... I dunno hope this helps any.