A Confused Empath?

Hey:) I'm an empath myself, same age too. I had troubles with school too, and crowds... Thought I was crazy because my mother had not yet told me what was happening. Well, anyways, a technique that seems to work is called "psychic shielding". It takes a lot of practice to perfect it, and a lot of concentration. But basically, just practice envisioning a strong bubble like protective shield around you, acting as a block of any energies that may get to you. Try to feel it, kind of thing, and just know that it's around you. And while taking a deep breath, imagine sucking your aura back in, close to your body. Our problem is, is that we act like a sponge for emotions, etc, when we're inexperienced... And unfortunately, we accidentally explore others auras with our own. Like I said, it takes a lot of practice to shield. I'm still learning how to do it:) . So it's important that you do it in your free time because, often, when you're "swimming in someone else's veins" you are so overwhelmed and out of touch with yourself, that it's near the impossible to focus on anything so you need to learn how to pull yourself out of that state. And I also read that eating a high protein meal before going out around crowds is also good for us empaths:) . Hope this helps:)

Honestly I fully agree with the idea that it is Possible to "Pause" the empathy. I have done it, and considering I am in school it works out for the better with me. But the trick to knowing whose emotions youre feeling mainly belongs with. If it goes against your ideaologies, then it is probably someone elses emotions!

my name is alberta I am new to this site becuase I found it today, but I don't know how I found it it just happens that way, I feel people I mean the ways they feel, some times I hear things but I don't know if it is real but it seems like it comes from them, if it don't come from them I don't know then becuase I might be crazy or some thing, I feel when animals are sick it is some thing about them an what their eyes say too that is all I want to put plus thanks for reading, now that is all

Ok, I just had to join this forum so that I could offer a bit of assistance in this particular case. I've been struggling with my empathic nature for about 7 years now and I do completely understand how you feel and the anxiety that happens when going around crowds of people. I noticed someone mentioned a couple of crystals and wanted to clarify.

Make sure you do your research as far as crystals are concerned because being sensitive as an empath is, the wrong stone can make you feel far worse rather than better.

I've recently discovered that I'm unconsciously draining people as well, otherwise indicated here as being a "psi-vamp". I used to think it was something people chose to do, but am realizing that it's not something I choose, it just seems to happen.

The crystal I would recommend is one I've started wearing regularly. It's Black Tourmaline. SPECIFICALLY Black. There are other kinds of tourmaline, but they don't do the same thing as what Black Tourmaline does.

Grounding is also a good method to keep from feeling light headed. Emotions are a different element and tend to make a person feel light headed and nauseous often enough. If you learn to ground, you're literally taking yourself out of the "water" of emotions and planting yourself back on the ground.

However that won't help much in the way of keeping yourself from being inundated with other people's emotions. You need to either learn a "shielding" technique or else use something that will help to shield you.

This is where Tourmaline comes in. This is a link I would highly recommend anyone to read. It gives all the qualities of the Black Tourmaline crystal and perhaps at that point you can decide if it's one that you feel you could benefit from.

Http://medicalastrologybyeileennauman.blogspot.com/2010/03/medical-astrology-gemstones-and-healing.html

(please forgive the length!)

Tourmaline has helped me to curb that vampirism that I didn't even know about, but it also keeps others from latching on and draining a person as well. It is a guard stone in many different aspects.

As far as being different, all people are different and it's better to have your differences and be unique than to wish yourself the same. Learn to be comfortable in your own skin and try and learn how to work with your gifts... (this IS a gift, even though we all feel often enough that we are cursed instead of gifted) And also know that every person is capable of these gifts, but only few people choose to acknowledge their gifts and learn to grow from them.

I hope it helps and keep your chin up... It does get easier when you do your research!

Hey there,
I know exactly how you feel. I deal with those very issues plus more, it prove to be difficult every day. I am not an expert, but I do feel like I should support you some how. I deal with these problems differently, which I suppose depends on a person's situation, anyways, I have gotten used to it. I generally try to block others out by appearing as if I don't notice them, but they are pretty noticable. So much annoyance, anger, makes them a big red dot on my "radar". I thankfully have an empathic friend who has better control over a person's directed emotion. She helps me through the day, since we share a lot of same classes. But it gets unbearable, at times I could've simply collapsed to the groung, and not cared to move, but the fact that it would be unsafe and extremely unwise for me in general to do so, I pull every ounce of though into "the day is almost over, you can sleep on the bus". It helps a little, I almost collapsed in the hallway yesterday, but I can't stand the sympathy given by the teachers, since it comes of as ignorance a lot of the time. I find it hard to me as well, since I have grown accustomed to drawing off the emotions of my friends, I am kind of popular, minus the country guys. So that causes a big problem for me, with the constant hateful, negative energy produce by those who can't stand me, and the constant positive energy produced by those who adore me, want me to help them, or otherwise. Energy is just what I used to describe overall emotional output, such as happy, sad, and other sorts. My own hoem is unfortunantly the last place I'd rather be, since there are so many people and tons of negativity. I just wanted to support you by saying that there are others whether knowlagable or not who have this problem too, they all deal with it differently. Whether or not someone cxan block anothers emotions, I'm not sure, I can't, but I can alter how they feel to better my own physical health. Even though I can do so, I choose not to. I feel that pulling the proper string to change their emotions is wrong, and will make things worse simply by prolonging their issues letting the emotions build and worsen. If some one can truly block anothers emotions, then by all means share it with everyone, since all I'm seeing is people saying they can, but they don't explain how. I ignore people when I can't handle anymore overload, I listen to music that has meaning to me some way to help divert myelf even if only a little. You can try this method too, but I'm not sure if it will work for everyone, since everyone is different, whetehr they show it or not. I am an experienced empath, even though my control on it is small, I do take from what I've learned about people because of it. Empathy is a great deal of help, to discern, and decide what to do, what feels right. I hope I helped!:]

hi,

Im going through the same thing though I'm in college right now. Though my powers are far more advanced than any other empath I have encountered. But I think you may have the potential to boost your abilities to do the stuff that I can do. Read my only post on here to know exactly what is happening to me.

I might be able to help you control your empathy. Coolman1391 [at] hotmail.com

I understood your problem, you should practice "Void Meditation" as much as you can because void meditation helps in controlling mind sophisticatedly

I think the stone you ultimately choose can't really be what's best for an empath, although that's a good thing to question. If you can find the two crystals, compare them in every aspect, the vibrations, and which one feels like it could better help you. It might sound odd to look at crystals that way, but I think it depends on what you think will help you, onyx or tourmaline. I've been told that black onyx can be helpful, as Nyx_21 also said. I don't think it has to be black though. It's a color known to block off negative energy in some crystals, but you also have to do some of the work. One crystal, for example, I'm drawn to is citrine. I was told that it can help block out negative energy, it's not the most widely known I don't think, but my intuition in a way is telling me to get that stone over the others I could choose. Go with the crystal that feels right to you, that's my advice.

Http://healing.about.com/od/crystaltherapy/tp/aatp_gemstones.htm
Http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/crystals/crystal-virtues_a.htm
Http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/crystals/crystal_virtue_chy.htm
Http://www.mysticfamiliar.com/library/crystals/crystal_virtues_m.htm
Those websites go over types of crystals and what they do/help with.
Good luck.

Nyx_21 Thanks.
Have you tried crystals before? Which would be better for an Empath, Onyx or Tourmaline? Or if you have any other suggestions? 😊

Black Onyx can be used to deflect or absorb the negativity of others, its a good stone for protection from negative influences.

I know the question wasn't intended for me, but I felt like I could help.

Lyra, with the crystals... Is black Onyx good for blocking negative energy?

Thanks

Most definitely try grounding your energy as well as shielding. I've also been told that carrying around or wearing certain stones like black tourmaline, quartz, crystal... Certain healing stones can help attract negative energy away from you. They can also help you keep up psychic shields.

You also need focus a lot on determining which emotions are yours versus other peoples' emotions. When you become overwhelmed with what everyone's feelings it gets hard to distinguish which are your own and which are the students'. Next time you become overwhelmed breathe, and really focus in on what You are feeling and mentally block out the other emotions. You can say something aloud if that helps, for example "Only my emotions surround me." Something that will mentally help you block out alternative emotions as well.

I wish you luck.

I have an empathic friend also, every time she (don't say it!) tries to block emotions when she is near me, I feel like I'm getting attacked with MY emotions. Plus I get a headache. *Sigh*

I have and empathic friend (just found out today, big suprise) and she blocked hers out in a strange way. She sorta went inside of herself and just said stop. And it did. I can try and find out more info soon, but don't be suprised if I don't tell you more, I have to sneak on this website. My parents would think I'm crazy if I told them about me. I don't think my advice could help, but you could try.:)

Aureth:

Blessed Be

Well, I'll share to you how I do manage my own troubles in regard with empathy.

Naturally, as a Psychic Vampire it is normal for me to have that kind of gift. It could help me choose which person I should feed on and which I should not and help me search out which is the best and has more positive energy or negative one.

Meditation play a part in controlling and knowing which is yours and which is not. Try to find a place where you could relax and meditate.

I've been with this for almost 18 years, but I've been aware of what am I for three years and the previous 15 are my dark times.

As a Psi-vamp it is not a joke if I could be overloaded with all sorts of emotions when I am in public places, malls or at my workplace or after I do a feeding frenzy style. ^_^.

If that happens to me, I should just push this unnecessary energy back to mother earth by means of grounding.

Visualizing my own energy field attaching to earth and then draining it to the ground. After that I could feel better or relieve.

Next as a defensive or if I don't want myself to interact with the worlds then I could form a shield to help me reject everything and to protect myself.

Here this article could give you a hint on how to make shields:

Http://psychicvampire.org/shielding.htm

For the last, don't be afraid with that. It is a double blade sword, it could protect you and it could harm you as well.

What you need is to master or try to learn how to hold that sword and it takes time and patience.

For me as a natural empath I am so thankful with that. At least I cold tell which one lies on me and which one is not and I could leverage my actions on anyone to make them comfortable with me.

It is a gift so cheer up.

Be Blessed
Raven

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Yeah I hate it too I guess we just need to find a way to get it under controle... But I'm sure things will work out in the end. Hope the best for us all:)

I have the same problem I'm 23 and have always liked my own company more then being around other people but never thought much of it until recently when asked to give a reason for a view point I felt very strongly about someone, I had no reason I just knew I can't explain it I just did but this seems to happen a lot and I get to mentally drained from being around other people my emotions jump all over the place I feel like I'm going to have a nervous break down sometimes I get so overwhelmed with emotions that aren't mine, shopping centers, schools, work. It got so bad I had to leave my last job I'm certain some of them think I'm a total nut case. It's making me hate people when really its not there fault.

that same thing happens to me! I hate it! It makes me feel like I'm so different, and I don't feel like I fit in anywhere.

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Thanks I'll check them out, I'm ready to try just about anything:)

Here is a Empathy Guide & techniques I found useful:

Http://eliselebeau.com/empathProgram.php

Here is Dr. Brene Brown too:

Http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQiFfA7KfF0

I listened to all her youtube videos and I have to say shes helped me the most. I think the problem for most empaths is we don't know how to absorb only the positive from other people. It is always easier to take the negative as its more on the extreme side of emotions.