Invisible Friend Possessing Me

Thank you for your consideration. I will be thinking about the subject and this relationship will be ending soon; Tommy will have to just deal with it. I will keep Tommy forever probably but the roommate situation must change.

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You know, I really tried to let this go in my own mind, and I really could not. I am truly sorry.
I am almost... When I read the whole "I was aware of what I was writing.", I got the impression that you lumped me in with the group of persons throwing stones, and that was NOT my intent.
My...worry...for you is probably all in that I am a Mama. And for THAT, I can not and will not apologise 😊.
Please forgive my inability to mince my words at this point.
YOU have a boyfriend who lives with you. YOU have a...visitor...who does not leave YOU. AND you have a roommate who lives in the same place both you and your boyfriend share.
When this...visitor...enters you, your ROOMMATE sometimes takes advantage of not only the situation, but YOU as well.
Hunny, THAT is not...
It is against the LAW.
That is CALLED "acquaintance rape".
UNLESS, you allow for that to happen.
I can not IMAGINE living with a boyfriend who is even only worth HALF his weight in sea salt, NOT "going after" this guy.
I really can not.
Speaking straight from experience here, girl, IF you are being raped... This should NOT be your response.
You SHOULD be getting pissed off at this roommate.
You SHOULD be getting security of that school involved, you SHOULD be talking with your boyfriend and telling him to boot his buddy (as I can not IMAGINE this roommate can BE a "friend" to YOU, if he is taking such liberties.
Even IF you are not quite yourself at the time.
Rape is WRONG, no matter if you are conscious of the fact when it occurs or NOT. It is straight up WRONG. And for you to allow for it to continue...
Things have gotten STRANGER than THAT?
Good Lord, Girl.
Get the Hell out of THAT relationship. Take Tommy with you, whatever, but TWO "men" are USING your BODY. Are you SURE you are ok with that?
In Respect.

My appologies, I did read his death incorrectly. Thank you for clearing that up for me.
Rest well.

Just to clear things up, Tommy was drowned BY his dad.

Rashidah, thank you. I trust that you know what's going on. In the end it is my decision and I do not feel that I should banish Tommy from my life at this time if ever, regardless of the more frightening opinions I'm receiving.
Thank you for asking your guide about Nevech. I don't know how to contact mine.

White - I live with the (ex) boyfriend AND another roommate now. I was aware of what I was writing. Time has progressed and things have gotten stranger.

Lyra - Thank you, your comment made me think. I am not going to banish Tommy, but I am going to set stricter boundaries with him.

Thank you everyone, I'm too tired to address all the replies.

I read the posts of other people, and I mostly agree with them. If there were more guidelines or borders to the relationship you're sharing with Tommy, then it would be a safer, better one. Although, its still not ideal, and its definitely NOT ok that he's asking you to commit suicide to be with him, there are boundaries you Have to set up.
Obviously, he's more anxious to be with you in his realm than he's worried about your health and well being on this realm, on this Earth. That's a really dangerous set up for yourself. Be a little selfish here, think about yourself and what he's doing to you. You've said that you are not thinking about suicide, but the thought must've creeped into your mind if you still want to be with him. You mentioned at one point that he stated the only way to get to his realm to be with him is to commit suicide, that doesn't sound dangerous to you? He's influencing you even if you can't see it yet, its like a building mess, you NEED to get it under control NOW. If he starts going any farther you'll be digging yourself into a deep hole.
Along with what another person posted, being influenced so easily can harm you. It's like having a low self-confidence, you depend on him to make you feel a certain way, and if this feeling reaches a certain point you May be driven to do things you normally wouldn't. It's like a teen romance, its immature, 'innocent' (although this one seems not so innocent.) Don't dig yourself into a ditch you can't get out of.
I've been down this path, you have to understand what you're doing and what you're getting into. The boundaries you set up for yourself and Tommy MUST be YOUR OWN, no one else's. In my opinion, it would be beneficial for you to talk to Tommy on your level, in your realm, rather than going up to him to talk. Your setting it up in a certain way so that he can influence you. If your letting him take over your body to the point of possession, he's taking over your mind as well. It doesn't end with the body, it has no boundaries where you're standing. **If he has control of your mind and body, what's stopping him from killing You.** He could easily take over your body and kill you so that you were forced to be in this realm with him, you'd have no control if he made that decision while you were in your parallel universe that you've described.
With me, I have a relationship with a man, in the spirit realm, who told me I was his wife after I'd spoken to him the first couple of times. For almost a year that was all I could think about, this second life I had apart from my life on Earth. After a while I never felt like I was really 'me.' I had this past life with my husband and daughter who were waiting for me, and I just wanted to be with them again. But the man I associated with, he made it clear to me that if I was to kill myself, I could no longer be with him and my daughter. He watched out for my safety, and not only that, he made sure I knew if I wanted to meet someone in my life and I wanted to date or marry them, I was to do so regardless of the thought that I had a husband.
My point is, the two lives should be separate from one another. And if not completely separate, at least put up borders. He is controlling YOUR life, that's not fair to you. You need to take control of your own life and everything you do. He's living your life, why should he be able to take that from you? He's practically killing you, he's taken away your personal freedom because you're letting him possess you. Just refocus at least, and figure out what he's doing, and what YOU want to do separate from him. Like others said, do YOU want to be with this guy, do YOU want him to live for you, do you want to live by his rules and desires?

I'm sorry this was so long, I wish you luck.

not at all rashidah, I stated in my previous post that everyone who has posted wants to help her, we just have different opinions on what she should do, but I think we both agree she will ultimately make that decision herself.

Neither one of us want to force our ideas on her, its her choice. Right? That is what I thought at least you were saying with your other post.

'However, the offer to help stands Dizzy. If you prefer not to take it up it your choice, and I would prefer to give HER a chance to refuse and refute the mistaken assumptions.'

I am probably still sleepy so I probably read your last post wrong but did you mean that I do not want to help Hail? 😕

Rashidah, if my statement was unfounded then I apologize to both you and dizzy for wasting both of your time, but that is what I read of her statements and they seemed to say to me. Like I said it was a personal observation.

However, the offer to help stands Dizzy. If you prefer not to take it up it your choice, and I would prefer to give HER a chance to refuse and refute the mistaken assumptions.

'Personally I think it shows a lack of confidence in yourself. Which is unfounded, even if you do not trust and believe in yourself, know that WE DO, because otherwise I personally wouldn't bother posting anything if I didn't think you could handle it and Might listen.'

That is a wrong assumption there. Hail never said that she lacked confidence in herself. Did you even read her posts properly? You all are really turning her off from this site. That is why she has takes very long to respond or even do not respond at all. You all are blowing this whole thing out of proportion.
You cannot help her if she is getting flustered by these sort of ridiculous posts.

hail dizzy:

I'm not sure if you see the common thread in all the responses to your story so far, but I will point them out just in case they are lost in everything (I forget not everyone is an empath)

1. We all care for you and our suggestions are meant to help you be happy and find happiness in this world. We might not agree on the methods or give the same advice but that is the basis of our posting on your thread.

2. We have faith in you and your innate powers to deal with Tommy. YOU have the power and can make the decision of what to do. Many suggest you stop being friends but all want YOU to take responsiblity for your life and your actions.

3. We are worried about you and your personal relationships with men and spirits.

Personally I think it shows a lack of confidence in yourself. Which is unfounded, even if you do not trust and believe in yourself, know that WE DO, because otherwise I personally wouldn't bother posting anything if I didn't think you could handle it and Might listen.

Feel free to reach me by email or IM if you would like to speak privately. There is more to your story you are not sharing, most of the time I found it involves someone trusted raping or misusing the person I am talking to, but I could be reading you wrong.

Peace, light and love,

AnandaHya

no, what you want, is for us to say it's ok.

That's not happening.

You are on a VERY DANGEROUS! Path.

Its not about ditching friends, you should NOT be friends with anyone that dosen't respect you, and tommy does not repect you.

And I just need to add (for my own peace of mind) that I am NOT talking about an incubus here.
I am talking about the HUMAN relationships that have branched off FROM Tommy's relationship.

HUMANS, in my opinion, are more dangerous than the life impaired. I would take on fifty Otherworldly Beings, before willingly going nose to nose with an evil PERSON.
That is what I am trying to show... The relationship with the LIVE individuals.
Thank you.

I will ask my guide about Nevech. I am planning to write more about other dimensions. I will keep you posted on that.

And hun I understand why you will get upset because Tommy is very dear to you. But you need to understand that everyone views are different. Especially when it comes to incubi.

But I find banishing is a bit unnecessary. So I have to disagree with the others here.

The choice is yours though if you want to banish him or not. You are the only one that truly knows him.

If you ever need anymore advice you can always talk to me if you like. ❤

Hunny, I am NOT telling you to banish this friend (Tommy) that you have had with you since you were very young, neither am I angry or getting upset with YOU.
I am asking you to take a look at the relationship that you have with your roommate.
THAT looks to be an "unhealthy" one if it is based on Tommy. Your ROOMMATE...
I have looked through all of your comments, and I see where you live with your boyfriend and are in college.
Is THIS the "roommate" that you refer to?
If it IS, you yourself have expressed that (on 10/3/10) it is "causing issues in my relationship with my boyfriend", "I don't usually actively engage in any kind of sexual activity with him..." (1/28/11), "I have woken up occasionally while goings on were taking place" (1/28/11), and then the clincher..."the boy is a room mate and is here all the time so when Tommy takes over, he's likely to do whatever he wants" (1/29/11).
Do you SEE what you wrote, but maybe did not REALISE that you wrote?
The startling part, for me, was reading (9/30/10) "he's been my closest friend since I was a child, I literally have no other friends... I should add that he has at times "taken over" my body."

I am trying to figure out Tommy's history, as I thought I had read that he had possibly drowned his Dad [I Have An Invisible Friend (9/28/10) ] in the nineteen forties, and in a post on 10/3/10 you say that HE is the one that drowned violently.

You are a student in Psychology, (10/4/10) I would encourage you to take a clearer look at this relationship, and "forget" for a moment that Tommy is life impaired. Do a case study on your whole situation and see what you come up with.
If BOTH of these "boys" (as Tommy has remained 14 all these years, and your boyfriend/roommate) were LIVE humans... LOOK at the relationship, and ways the different aspects have effected your everyday life.
Thank you.

Hell is not within the spiritual world where you have seen. It is itself in another dimension but within the Earth at the same time.
I can mention one name of a dimension I know of and been to... Called Crylas.
I'm not going to tell you to banish Tommy, but you need to take more control and set out things completely straight with him.
You know there are many different types of demons out there. Since Tommy can enter and control you, he can also control senses of yours that may distract you. If you can see the spirit world, then maybe you can see others as well.

First let me say this, I do not believe in Hell. Not only because I'm Jewish but because of what I've seen in the spiritual world.

Furthermore, I am seeking advice but not the kind that is going to tell me to banish my best friend of 8 years. I simply cannot do it. I am here asking for information, or to find someone with stories similar to mine. I know Tommy is not a demon but I do know that he shouldn't be using me as he is. I am going to protect myself, and discuss this issue with the roommate.

Everyone, I feel, is getting a little angry for no reason. I don't believe in casting out spirits simply because they may seem mean at times, nor do I believe in ditching friends.

I've tried to find information on Nevech but couldn't, if anyone has names of different dimensions, that would be very helpful in deciphering the name of The Parallel.

Nevech? I am not familiar with that realm but thank you for sharing that information.

Sorry for the late reply. I slept out this weekend.

I hope that everything is going alright with you and Tommy ❤

Please keep me us updated.

This story is very disturbing to me. You should make a move quickly to repair it. You body/soul is nothing that should ever be shared or bargained. I am sorry for you. I hope you can fix this.

I am with Marcus.
You have GOT to take a different look at this.

i have/still deal with demons, and not the "happy demons" that you were talking about on your other page, but actual demons that want to kill and steal souls.

You DO know that in your other page where you tlakied about demons that were nice and are youtr friend, you DO know that they are either,

Lieing so you will trust them and go to hell with them,

OR they arent actual demons.

After reading your stories, I'm worried.

Once you gave permission, they took it. That's all, no big deal. What? NOW you want ground rules? Sorry, those are worked out beforehand. If you failed to make those rules when you has the chance to bargain then, Oh well...
If you want this to stop, you have to mean it. There are no PAUSE buttons to change rules and return to PLAY.

If you're willingly give up possesion of your body to an entity what makes you think that either one of those guys is going to give it back willingly?
You say you don't care, yet you ask for advice from us? You knew exactly what we'd say before asking.
What do you really want? Someone to say that what you're doing is OK? Nope, not here, not today.
If you want help, ask for it.
If you don't, then why are you here?
I won't fight for your soul if you aren't going to help. You have to want a solution.

"...so when Tommy takes over, he's likely to do whatever he wants." WHO is likely to do whatever he wants? Tommy is, or this roommate of yours that you are allowing Tommy to have a relationship WITH? Oh my LORD I hope it is not what that comment really LOOKS like...
The "big deal" is that is SOUNDS as if your roommate is taking advantage of a relationship. How do you KNOW your room mate BELIEVES Tommy exists? How do you KNOW he is not just "playing along" to get what HE wants?
I am NOT trying to be mean, but you really need to SERIOUSLY look at that.
Thank you.

Ananda- thank you for your advice. I need to work on developing protection because Tommy is the only one who can shake the light when I decide to go into protective mode.

Marcus - he's not a demon, as I do know demons, but he is a very emotional and immature entity. Just like living 14 year olds do things that hurt people they really DO care about, so does Tommy.

White - the boy is a room mate and is here all the time so when Tommy takes over, he's likely to do whatever he wants.
I don't know how I feel about their relationship, Tommy doesn't want to be with him permanently though. He wants me to be with him, which, like I've said, I'm not suicidal so it's not happening.

If I don't mind Tommy using my body for his relationship then WHAT is the big deal here.

❤

You know, I guess... I guess I am a little tossed here.
You allow your Other worldly friend to have a relationship with a boy from school with your body.
No, that is really not an "evil" thing, but uh... Do YOU want a relationship with this boy from school? Think about that one. Really think.
He thinks that it may be easier for you to have a relationship with him after your death... Think HARD on that one.
IF he wishes to have a physical relationship with this boy from your school, AND a relationship with YOU...
This is a two edged sword that is going to cut either way. It SHOULD cut the ties that bind you two.
First, what of the feelings of this boy in your school? What of YOUR feelings? MOST people have an attachment to the one that they have a physical relationship WITH.
This boy from school gives HIS permission as well. HE KNOWS about "Tommy"...
This is NOT "Ghosts". Does HE understand the implications of what HE is taking on?
Thank you.

a friend DOES NOT POSSES YOU, WITH PERMISSION OR WITHOUT IT.

I'm not sure what you should do, but the possession and suicide stuff has to stop.

Sounds to me like a demon.

Hail-dizzy:

Thanks for answering my questions.

I think that you shouldn't let Tommy interfer with developing your own relationships with other people and living your life.

I used to talk to spirits who told me to kill myself, but it wasn't healthy and I told them we couldn't change the topic they would have to leave. They still come to visit sometimes but we talk about other things.

I know Tommy is your friend but he is taking horrible advantage of your kindness. Definitely listen to all the others advice and set up some boundaries and shields. You have the power within yourself to do it.

The easiest one is to develop the intent in your heart to protect yourself. It will be a white light in your heart that can spread around you and protect you. You can make it so that Tommy and others can talk to you as long as they mean you no harm. However if they do want to hurt you they can't get pass this shield.

Look at other shields or post a request and others can suggest other means of protection.

Peace, light and Love
AnandaHya

Ananda- Tommy does not age. The Parallel is a spiritual world and the grass is different colors, sometimes even pink and blue. The sky is green tinted during the day and night and there is one moon. It is located about 3 feet above our dimension. There are animals but they are somewhat different from ours =)

Rashidah - not activiely... I have woken up occasionally while goings on were taking place.
I do not know the name but I found a girl who has visted the same place and she called it Nevech.

Chetyre - I feel that you don't understand that Tommy isn't all evil, but he is very immature. He thinks it's fine to die to be with him, he is still scarred from the abuse he experienced while alive and he takes it out on me. Tommy has, in many situations, saved my life - he says I may not go to his dimension if it's not suicide.
Although I do agree, none of this is healthy. Lol it can be stressful.

Cosmogal - Thank you =) I do need to take the control back. I do like the person, but I don't move as fast normally as he has been moving, and knowing about it has made me feel putrid.

Hail-Dizzy, I don't think your relationship with Tommy is a healthy one. It sounds like he is getting progressively more hurtful towards you and jealous of your life. I know you consider him your best friend, but friends do not tell each other to kill themselves. I'm kind of confused as to how it benefits you to allow Tommy to use your body and have a relationship with one of your male friends. Do you like this friend enough to have a romantic relationship with? Also, you said that this friend knows about Tommy. So how do you know for sure that he isn't going along with this just so he can be initmate with you? I agree with Rashidah and think you need to have a talk with Tommy and set some ground rules down. If he wants to continue being your friend he can't be telling you to commit suicide and take control of your body whenever he wants to. This is your life Dizzy, spend as much time as you can living and enjoying it. Chetyre made a couple of good points too. I'm not saying to turn your back on Tommy completely I just think that you need to take back control of the relationship. Hope everything works out well for you. Keep us posted. 😊 ❤

(sighs tiredly)

So let me get this straight... You know this "thing" named Tommy and he threatens you at times by suggesting you commit suicide so you can "be" with him and on top of that you let this "spook" possess you?

And so he acts, supposedly, through you in a romantic relationship with one of your friends?
And the payoff for all this puppeteering is what? That he shares information with you?
Shows you how to astrally project?

How do you know this information is even reliable?

Secondly do you really think this is what "friends" do to one another? Tell them BS like you should commit suicide?

This is not a friend but some other thing masquerading as a human boy.

You have two choices, either break the connection with this thing and refuse it to enter you or you can become its slave and let it do whatever it wants and let you take the fall for it.

I am sorry but you've been had by a parasite, "Tommy" is not a friend if it uses you and makes such putrid suggestions to you. I can only assume you wouldn't tolerate this baloney from alive person so why tolerate it from some spook?

Also...if you or your friend gets a disease through all this or you get pregnant then what? Have you even contemplated that you are in the real world and have to deal with real world consequences.

I am sorry but I understand you were lonely and all but you cannot worry about "Tommy"...he is in another world and doesn't have to deal with your world as intimately as you do. "Tommy" obviously still has some lessons to learn.

If you still insist on talking to "Tommy" then whatever but maybe you need real friends who don't suggest you end your life no matter how "frustrated" this thing is.

Put the brakes on this before something happens that you will regret... Your body is yours and your responsibility... If you get hurt because of "Tommy" you can bet he isn't going to be there to help or lend sympathy.

I do not mean to sound harsh but this seems to have gotten out of control a long time ago.