My Dearly Departed Fiance

Mai, first of all, you have my deepest sympathy. What a devastating occurance.

I don't know what religion you are, but really, that isn't important. The Lord will hear all prayers, regardless of religious beliefs.

This is so saddening that I can't find the proper words right now to express how bad I feel for you.

Losses of loved ones are always hard, but especially hard when they come so suddenly.

I am sure you will receive support from many friends. You never realize how many friends you do have until times like this arrive.

Try to keep a lot of family and friends around you right now.

Again, please accept my most sincere condolences.

Post on here as much as you need to.

Jack

my fiance was killed 3 weeks ago... We're about to get married next year. Everything was shuttered... Don't know where to start.

Hi Vicky and others. I am very new at this spiritual stuff, but I will say one thing, I do firmly believe in God, heaven; and the spiritual.

In my own crude manner I will try to say this in short form. I was raised Catholic, so I learned the basics. I no longer go to church, and haven't for years, but do firmly believe. I just pray whereever I happen to be, but with the utmost respect.

Your loss is similar to mine, in that you wonder about your own mind and where you are right now. I too feel that way.

I have never wanted to go into any cemetery (not my parents or anyone else's) and didn't. But now, I go visit my Friend's marker and put flowers on it and pray with every special time that comes up in my mind. I really want to go there and do that. Before the loss of my friend, I would never want to do that. Not even my own family I was raised with. I don't even understand that.

All I do know is that I have done quite a bit of reading lately about the spiritual world, and it becomes very obvious to me that anything can and does happen. Ignore others who comment negatively, and follow your instincts. I sometimes wonder about myself, but learned to ignore others with negative comments. The spirit world, in my opinion (and my strong feeling) is around us and I really am beginning to believe that in some instances, contact is made, either spiritual/physical, or just spiritual.

Don't know if any of this will make any sense to you Vicky, but there it is, and I am deeply sorry for your loss.

John

I am a very crude writer, so please bear with me. I usually write a book to describe a 30 second experience.

In January, I lost a dear, dear friend. She was more my wife's friend than mine, or at least that is what I thought. I met her for a few hours here at my home, as she volunteered to paint a mural on my bedroom wall, and some mountains on my living room wall for my Christmas village. We talked during those hours.

She had an acquired disease at age 8, and it hit her at age 28, with kidney failure. She would call my wife for advice almost daily, as she was worried. My wife is a nurse. My wife only knew her because she was my wife's boss's daughter.

She called one night and my wife wasn't home, and so we talked for over an hour. No rhyme nor reason, just joked and laughed like a couple of teenagers. I was 38 years older than my friend.

This isn't an experience per se, but it is rather strange, at least in the eyes of my friend's parents and others.

I sympathized with the parents for over a month, so never really thought about how I felt. Then, it hit me. I feel as though she is right in my heart, and I feel absolutely devastated. Like I said, I didn't know her as well as most others, but I can't move on from it. I perform my daily activities and have a great marriage, but still, this girl is in my mind at least 12 hours of each day. It isn't a bad experience at all. The more I pray about her, visit her marker to put on flowers, and mentally talk to her, the more I have the need to give her a great big hug.

I didn't get to know her very well, as her parents were never the type to invite us over, or make us feel comfortable dropping by.

She was 30, but lived more than most of us. A beautiful artist, and and very great person. She was receptive to all street people, strangers, and anyone else needing any help. She was a 'rough around the edge young lady', but she was absolutely beautiful inside and out.

I talk to her in my car, and pray to the Lord about her and for her every day.

The feelings of missing her are sometimes very intense, but in a way the feeling is beautiful.

I just feel 'plain connected' to her spirit.

I really know I am not going crazy, but you could never prove it by others around me. However, I do ignore their comments, and lack of response.

Where do all of you think I am in all of this?

Like I said, it isn't the kind of experience that is at all bad, just sad, and very enriching at the same time.

Thanks for reading my "book".

Jack

Vicky you sound like a very lovely woman, and a woman who was and still is very much in love. He most certainly is in heaven, you mentioned you are Christian, keep your faith, pray about this. Read your bible-keep in mind "our citenship is in heaven" pray out loud, read your scriptures outloud,

Philippians 3:20-21
20: citizenship is in heaven, and from it we also await a savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. 21 He will change our lowly body to conform with his glorified body by the powers that enables him also to bring all things into subjection to himself.

In the sense of being God’s home and the ultimate place for the faithful

Thank you michelle. I truely believe the same. I have no doubt about him being here. I wish there were a way for me to let him know that I miss him And that I love him more than anything or anyone. I can say it all I want to him but I have no way of knowing if he understands me. I can only hope. Again thank you for your time I truely do thank you.

Hi Vicky we cry for our loved when they past and we pray they go to the place we call heaven it is hard to believe one belief over another.
But by a real life experience my whole thinking of what is here and what is not has really given me a new insight of our spiritual belief.
My name is michelle you can read my story on this site about how I became the person I am today.
You are not crazy and yes your loved ones is here everyday looking over you and your family, yes we do lose our loved one to another world the spiritual world ,if you understand what I know you will soon learn that our loved ones are still with us in spirit and we breathe and live in the same space in the same time but parted by a parellel world called the living spirit, Your loved one is still unsure about how you will cope and is keeping a eye on you, he wants good things for you ,his spirit is with many others and he is well taken care of, you need to love him for him and know that he will always be with you in spirit when the time is right and his presence is no longer he will leave your beautful being so it can live a greater life with another who will be worthy of your goodness, don't grieve because hes gone be happy that he is still watching you always ,,his spirit life would have no meaning if your earthly life was not of great value to many
Take care Eyes of the Livng Spirit