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We Must Learn To Be In Control


I've been reading a lot of peoples stories in this site lately and have found that many have such a fear of spirit. What is it that frightens you all? Is it what you've seen tv? Or at the movies? Or read in books?

I really think we need to learn a few things about spirit and their world and how to deal with them. They are not complicated beings, they are not all powerful beings that perform miracles every day (I'm not saying they don't do this sometimes). They have lived their lives on this earth plane and have now left their physical bodies behind.

All I want to do is give some advice on spirit and what I believe to be true. Some basic info anyway.

I try to think of spirit more like us than anything else, I try to talk to spirit like I talk to a mate or family member that is still alive. Try not to treat spirit any different to this. And this is where your control must come in. Spirit will try and communicate with those open enough to see, feel or hear them anyway they can, they will do this night and day if you allow them to. And what I mean by allowing them to is to sit around and wonder how do I get them to go away? The easiest way is to tell them that you don't want to talk to them and to leave you alone. I know it sounds simple but 9 times out of 10 this will work. This is where your control over the situation must happen, you can't tell them to go away and then start wondering in your mind I wonder if they've gone? And start question yourself, As spirit will just turn up again and say no I'm not gone. If you fear them they will stay around as spirit will live off of your fear. You need to be confident that when you say go away you mean it. This is what I mean by in control, you have to be confident that they can't hurt you, can't run your life or be in to close 24/7.

A simple thing to remember is, this is our world, we are the physical beings on this plant, we have come here to learn and experience, not them. They are energy, nothing more nothing less, they are hear to prove that life goes on after we have passed, by what they bring through to us, and to help guide where they can. But we must be in control as this is our world.

Anyway just a little food for thought, and just my opinion.

I hope this helps a few of you out there.

I'll will also say that on the other hand, I work with spirit everyday as a medium, and the communications that you have with them can be great, Its just learning to be in control can be the hardest thing to learn, but when you do it does open up a different world for you to look at.

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charmsdes (7 stories) (19 posts)
12 years ago (2011-12-13)
In all my experiences asking the spirits to leave me alone did not work. I had to ask them what they wanted from me. I found it was easier to say that I meant them no harm and that their place was in the light and I would coax them to go towards the light. That usually helped me. I've had some pretty nasty experiences with spirits. A lot of them were angry and vengeful. (Living in a haunted house for 33 years was not exactly the easiest thing in the world.)
asia (1 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-23)
i added you on fb hoping to have some answers, because I'm really having trouble about all this stuffs... I don't know what to think anymore...
chicken1 (2 stories) (69 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-23)
sori its taken me so long to get back online,
Adrianm80, you say you need to learn how to control as you don't feel you can control these abilities, As teenagers learning to control can be the hardest thing. As when your a teenager mostly your emotions and hormones are always changing. If at the moment you don't feel like you can control this gift, maybe tell spirit to not bother you while your at school, tell them if they want to show you something, to come back later on when your at home in a settled place when you can concentrate on what they give you better. Give them some rules, this is what I mean by control also, its not always about about ignoring what they have to give but its about setting some boundaries for spirit. This may work or it may not as everyones different and spirit will work differently with each person. I hope this helps. Thanks also wanderingwayne, Its good to see some people that think along the same lines as me.
WanderingWayne (4 stories) (107 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-20)
I agree with you and I liked reading this post. It reflects how I feel also. I can't help but feel for some of the people who post on here and the fear they are experiencing. Fear is a tough one to overcome sometimes. Hope your words of encouragement help.
adrianm80 (25 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-17)
i tryed to take your advice but I can't control my abilities. The only reason I'm freaking out at this time is cause my abilities are developing and getting worse. I have had my abilities since I was 3 I'm 12 now. I used to only use my abilities when I was asleep but there taking over my mind. I'm having them when I'm awake now and when I'm asleep. I'm starting my second year tests iv done a few practices in school but I have visions as soon as I get the test 😭. Then the vision is only 2 seconds in my mind but it was a half hour realy. I only got 1 question done 😢 and to make it WORSE it wasn't even important it was only a door opening and a chair falling 😠 I need to learn to control this before I start my gcse's
Plz help.
Girasol (3 stories) (49 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-15)
Thanks for the advice. Its that fear of the unknown! I'm not as scared as I was a few months back when a lot of things started happening. I have accepted that there is definitely more to the world than most people are aware of and I am glad to have had some of these experiences as it has changed me in a way. I know that there is something after death and we should try to be as good as we can be and enjoy life while we are here.
Eagleclaw (386 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-15)
Your welcome, And, we have both learned many things from the spirits night & day times.
chicken1 (2 stories) (69 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-15)
Thanks eagleclaw, I thought you might agree, I have seen some of you comments and I think we both think along the similar lines.
Hi girasol
Dont get me wrong I know spirit can scare the crap out of us as humans, that's not what I'm saying, I too get a fright when I see someone standing at the end of my bed that maybe shouldnt be there. But there is a difference in getting a fright and constantly being in fear. Its our human nature to get a fright or fear things. What I am trying to say is this is where your control over the situation needs to come in, Its at this point we need to be strong and to tell them to go away, and be confident in doing so. I know what its like to fear spirit, I have had so many different experiences with spirit, good and bad, I have had them take control of my whole body, I have had them change my facial features to look like my wifes grandfather, had them talk through me when I didn't want them to and I had to pick up my cell phone so I didn't look like I was talking to myself. I have had many more things that spirit have tried to do to me, but it all stopped when I pretty much told them all to bugger off, and if they didn't I wouldn't talk to them anymore. This is the reason I don't fear spirit anymore, as I have had the lowest of the low and even though they scared the crap out of me they didn't hurt me. Also the main reason we see spirit at night as our senses are so much more heighten in the dark, Spirit is around us 24/7 but because the daylight doesn't scare us, we don't take much notice of what we can't see,. Dont get me wrong I think that being in control of what's going on spiritually around us will be one of the hardest thing we need to learn. And to keep learning.

Try not to think of shadows as always being negative either, sometimes theyre actually spirits that are here to learn off of use aswell, youll definately know the difference by how they feel around you, All I'm trying to do is maybe change the way people think of spirit.
Girasol (3 stories) (49 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-14)
Good advice and I understand that but when things happen intermittently and out of the blue it can be quite hard not to get jumpy, especially when things seem to happen more at night when you are half asleep and someone or some shadow is right in front of you. I think I scare them off more with my reaction and they don't come back 😊
Eagleclaw (386 posts)
12 years ago (2011-09-14)
Great advice & well explained too. Thanks! Many will learn from this.

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