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I Need Help With My Empathy


I am twenty years old, and only just recently found out what has been ailing me since I was a child. I am an empath, I can feel auras and I, in effect, consume the emotions of those around me to the point where I cannot tell the difference between my own emotions and those of the people around me. It makes me extremely volatile in a crowd and I have intense mood swings, I have been to doctors for mood disorders and depression but nothing helps.

I was told after a long conversation with my best friend's mom, who is a medium, that she thought I was an empath. After a week she called me and told me that she was sure that I was an empath after she had studied on it a bit. From there we met a few times so that she could help me effectively shield and help with my gift. Unfortunately, I found that studying with her was distracting; all I can say is that her aura is not peaceful and it is rather distracting. She has told me that it would be better for me to find help with someone that I could devote full attention with, so here I am.

I am really looking for help. If life can be better than this I would love to see it. I am not complaining because with the down side of my ability comes an upside. I am extremely in tune with my boyfriend, and my father, even from a distance I can feel changes in their mood. I have always been very good at listening and understanding others problems, and I try to help, although sometimes it turns out badly I always have the best of intentions.

At this point I am concerned about my own personal well being, as well as that of the people closest to me because, like I said, I pick up emotions and react to them as if they were my own. I pick up anger and sadness much easier than happiness or contentedness, and so I argue and yell or cry and stay withdrawn most of the time when I am around others. Please help me, with shielding and learning how to better use this gift.

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Psychic4Life (4 stories) (13 posts)
12 years ago (2012-08-18)
Hi Jessica,

I am an Empath also and with the 5 years that I have had to study, understand and learn to control my ability as much as I possibly can, I've learned that there really is no "controlling" it per se. How I like to think of it is there are outer/external ways opposite my ability that I can practice that sort of "box" it in instead of having it run rampant, if that makes any sense. For example, I ground, center and shield to contain it so it doesn't overwhelm me. And the only way to really "pull it up" at will is to just center your focus and listen closely to it; don't feel discouraged if you at first don't get this. It's not nearly as simple as it sounds...

Good luck and God bless!
NTimi (guest)
14 years ago (2010-11-05)
Hello everybody! What do you think why do I feel one person more than the others? His moodswings are making changes in my behaviour all the time. I just don't know who really I am... But there are days I think when I don't feel anything... I have no idea why is it happenning...: (

Please help...

pyroseverus (2 posts)
14 years ago (2010-07-30)
I am empathic and have the same problem. I don't remember a time I knew what I was feeling. Whatever feeling others are, I feel that same way. I can't control it!
Air (2 posts)
15 years ago (2009-07-26)
Hello.I agree with stormtree below me. Solid advice. I am also an empath. When I was very young it was a difficult road. Before I understood what was happening, I was acting out emotions from family members etc.
I only became aware of what was happening when I was 18 and was hanging out with some friends one night and found myself so depressed, when earlier that night I had been happy happy. I remember looking around at everyone knowing that it was someone else. It was like a light went on. All those years...
I still have to be very careful. I don't just pick up emotions, but body sensations, shadows of illness,pain,a bunch of very unpleasant stuff.Also,often if someone is lying to me I can tell immediately, I feel like a wierd sense of fog and I get confused. Only for a split second though.
If I were to sum up the things that I personally see as most important for empaths, in order of importance, it would look like this:
1.every single day, multiple times a day, freeze yourself and take careful note of how you feel, mind state etc. Do it when around others and when you are not. This helps teach discernment between yourself and others.
2.Meditate,or learn to sit quietly and watch your thoughts. The more aware of our own thoughts, the better we can tell them apart from someone elses. Best thing is to quiet your mind as much as possible.
3.Practice stating to yourself,"this belongs to...","this is mine" etc... It can help to sensitize you to the different "feel" of each person and thier thoughts/feelings.each of us has a different feel, like an energy signature. Know your own;)
4.Have an activity that brings you solidly into your physical self. Most empaths I have met have an above average need for physical excersize. I'm not sure why, but it seems to help with the extra stress we deal with. It can help us from getting sick by keeping energy circulating. I personally love mountain biking, hiking and yoga. Yoga is very good because it keeps me all relaxed and clear physically, so I am more concious if I start picking up someone elses stuff.
5.find a method that works to let go of energy. Some of us use visual imagery, or a song, a chant, anything that makes you go "ahhhhhhhhh" and feel like jello. As though everything extra has dropped off you. So a trigger to use for relaxation. Mine are excersize, taking showers (I see the water taking "it all off me" and going down the drain...amazing),and music.
I could probably write for hours about this subject. Empathy creates so much confusion at times. All I can say is I hope that something I included here helps you out;) many blessings on your juourney!
Scarlet_Red (3 posts)
15 years ago (2009-07-09)
You're an empath I think I am too. Sometimes I suddenly feel sad, angry or scared for no reason. It's very uncomfortable and you mostly can't control it.
Ask people who are empath too they might be able to help you shield away other's emotions. 😊
kangaboo (1 stories) (1 posts)
15 years ago (2009-07-03)
Thank you all for your help and support. It means so much to me. A special thank you to those that outlined basic shielding techniques. I am working on shielding and mediating on my own now. My deepest gratitude. ❤
vendettaBabes (3 stories) (335 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-26)
Well hello.

Seems to us that you are in very dear help of learning to shield. One of the awful things about modern times is that most psychics no longer feel the need to pass down to the younger psychics the basics on shielding. Why this happened, the Lord knows. If you'd like to know more about this, please contact us.:)

stormtree (1 stories) (53 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-24)

What I meant to write is that absurdly common activities can be HELPFUL...
stormtree (1 stories) (53 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-24)

It can, indeed, be really insidious when those we look to for comfort and support are themselves less than comforting. I'm glad that you are assertive enough to recognize and report the mixed nature of your mother's friend's energy.

You are not alone, and there are basic if quite critical things that you can do to regain and maintain your balance and health.

In my earlier posts over the last month or so (you can put "Stormtree" into the search box under "more psychic experiences" to review them) I have addressed these issues.

In sum, you must develop and protect your own center. At the core, this involves developing and strengthening your own spiritual center, asserting and getting planted in your own personal definition, and generating a field of clear energy from this core.

In addition, you must learn to control your spiritual boundaries... It might be helpful to think of a personal "bubble" that you keep around you and adjust in order to stay in tune so that you can maintain relationship with live and others and exercise your gifts without being overwhelmed by the input.

Simple, if not so easy to accomplish initially. But sometimes just having the perspective of what's happening can do a lot to prevent overwhelm.

One thing is VERY important: Your own fear or anger will both attract and strengthen negative energies and entities and weaken and confuse you. Find ways in your down times to build broadly your white light, and develop techniques to battle your own darkness with light... Perhaps a song, prayer, or image to hold on to.

When it comes down to nuts and bolts, whatever absurdly common things bring you back to earth tends to be helfull when done in moderation. Watch a stupid movie, bury yourself in a pile of leaves, eat a pizza and read Mad Magazine...

Personally, I find walking, running, and singing to be very grounding and calming.

You mentioned going to doctors for mood disorders and depression. These can, indeed, be generated by spiritual disturbance, whether or not they have a biochemical basis. I'm glad that you are working on a spiritual focus, and I would add that I hope that you continue to focus on being physically healthy and actualized rather than falling into the trap that many do of focusing on the disorder. If, indeed, there is a biochemical basis for your mood disorders, this sort of thing frequently peaks in late adolescence and early adulthood and, if not overmedicated, quiets down. The wisdom and emotional discipline that you can gain from riding out the storm will be great gifts. Either way, all things both find origin in and are subject to Spirit... This is the basis for miracles.

Take heart, focus on your own actualization, and don't miss out on the little things that bring you joy.

Review my responses to other posters, and post back.

red13 (1 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-24)
You done the first thing right by realizing that your and empath. Dispite what may people think about empathy you can control it. Like you I've been an empath all my life. You know the type a sensitive kid. What I find that helps me is to find a time when I can be alone. You need to meditate on certain emotions like love or joy. When you meditate recall memories of the happiest time in you life, those thing which bring you joy. Now you need to really focus on what you feel. Once you can recall the feeling at will, do so wrap yourself with it. Whenever your in a crowd use the emotions you have cultivated through meditation as a shield (I picture a bubble around my head). It takes time to do this so don't give up. Don't be afraid of your ability it can be richly rewarding in time and training.
Alex_Atlantis (3 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-24)
I have... Similar experiences, but I honestly don't know what to do about the emotions because I've been fairly emotionally distant since I was little. I can understand people, even when they can't understand themselves, to a scary degree. The only thing I can suggest is meditation, I guess. When I have problems with my body, that's what I rely on. It seems to work well. It sounds a bit cliche, I know, but I'm not very in control of whatever ability I have--I haven't even identified it yet. I just know the odds have a way of changing when I'm around. I hope this helps, if only some.
loulou (1 stories) (3 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-23)
I am having the same experiences, it can be very annoying and frightening some times. I find it hard to tell which feelings are mine and which are others. I have not worked out how to control this yet either. Sorry I can't help but just to let you know your Not alone. 😕
epoy1984 (14 stories) (644 posts)
15 years ago (2009-06-23)
Looks like you are more sensitive than other people. If you are experiencing it then believe that your ability is real. 😁

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