I've experienced deja vu since I was about 5. I would watch events unfolding and realize I had experienced them before. I learned as a teen that this was deja vu and not something everyone else experienced. I played games and would try to recollect the deja vu as soon as I saw it unfolding and was able to stay a few seconds to minutes ahead of the actual event. I have a daughter and son. When my daughter was about 10, she started telling me how she would experience something that had already happened. Hmmm, is this skill hereditary?
As I got older, I found I got instant reactions to people I met. A sense of whether they were good or bad. I thought it was intuition but found I would get a sense of someone being a "bad" person when no one thought that and there was no logical reason for me to either. Later, sometimes weeks or months, an event would prove me correct and usually everyone else would be shocked.
Most recently, in the last 4 to 5 years, I started getting strong feelings or even thoughts that popped in my head like I failed a test, date for prom, fight with a friend, or just feelings of sadness, confusion, listlessness, happiness, etc. I would pick up my daughter or get a call and the thoughts or emotions would be from something that happened with her. I guess they're premonitions? I seem to "feel" other people's emotional states but nothing like I do with my daughter. I do not get the intense sensing with my son or husband. She really affects me with highs and lows. I'm like an emotional meter for my daughter and this is a real roller coaster with a teen.
Recently, I've had some very strong, negative feelings surrounding her. Through subtle questions, I was able to figure out she was fine but the feelings persisted to the point of making me sick to my stomach and extremely listless. I starting noticing that whenever her boyfriend came over the feelings increased. I started to think he had done something and finally talked to my daughter but she did not see any changes going on.
When I get these feelings, they clear up in minutes or a few days. They can be sad or happy. This was the first time I have had anything so intense and long lasting (over a week). I've lost 10 pounds from lack of sleep and appetite. Each day I seemed to hone in a little closer to the cause but cannot pinpoint "what" it is. It's gone from my daughter, to her boyfriend, to someone or thing negative around him. I just feel someone bad or wrong is around him and of course what can I say without coming across as a nut. I'm also shocked that this is now occurring with him and can only think that it is channeling through my daughter. Because it is all so vague, I've stopped saying anything to my daughter so not to stress her too. But my daughter has pointed out that I get these feelings and I'm never wrong. Fortunately, it seems to be easing off and I am less stressed but still very preoccupied.
So what do I do with such vague details? Just tell people to be careful? My friend thinks I need to sharpen this skill so that I can be more effective. I would love to know how to do this only because I seem to be getting more sensitive not less. And now with this experience, I feel very vulnerable as it has been very consuming and I have no way to stop it or understand it. So I feel the best thing is to understand it. It has been a very out of control experience. Does anyone know how to get a handle on this?