My daughter's dad died (hung himself) a couple of months before her 6th birthday May 20, 2004. A few months after that we were in the habit of writing in our journals before going to sleep. We were laying on our stomachs me writing, her drawing pictures. She jumped up quickly, I turned my head to look at her and she said as she pointed to the mirror on the dresser, "I see my dad". I looked in that direction and did not see anyone.
She hasn't talked to me about it until recently. She has told me she can see people who have passed. She hates going to funerals, or grave sites because of this. My cousin died and I gave my daughter the choice to come. She decided she would, in her words, she needs to learn to deal with it. At the viewing, she says she did not see my cousin, but there were a lot of old men smoking big cigars. She has never seen cigars that big. The next day my daughter says my cousin was there. I asked her if she was around any one person, but she wasn't around anyone in particular. My daughter said my cousin just didn't like everyone crying.
She says she has seen her dad, and he would sit by me on my bed. She wanted to know if I wanted to ask him something. So I just said "why", she says he responded with "you know why". Most recently she has seen a close friend who took his own life (also hung himself). She says he was making her see visions of his passing. Also showing her his dad finding him. She says she felt what he was feeling at the time of his passing. She says it was an unimaginable sadness. She felt it so powerfully. She tried to make him stop, but she says he wouldn't leave her alone.
My daughter seems older and wiser than her 13 years of age. I am trying to help my daughter and enhance what she has. I just am not sure exactly how to do this. I am wondering if this is having an effect on her and her psychy. And is there a better way to help her.