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Uncontrollable Empath Abilities


I am an empath. My grandfather was an empath and my mother is an empath. I started noticing that I was an empath at about 12 years old. Before than I didn't even know that they existed or that my mother was even an empath. I am older now and feel that my abilities are growing quickly. I can feel people's emotions as well as pick up on their thoughts. The problem is I don't know how to control it! I feel extremely overwhelmed when I enter a room full of people, I get nervous, excited, sad, it's like I'm picking up all of their emotions all at once! I tried meditating and that didn't even work at all, when I meditate I can hear and feel others' thoughts, feelings, I can't concentrate.

Another problem is that it's hard to control and concentrate on one person when I want to. If I want to feel someone's emotions I can kind of pick it up it feels fuzzy (I can't get very far only feel a little bit). If the person is feeling extreme feelings though I pick it up as soon as they enter the same room as me. So, can anyone give me any advice as how to control this or if anyone knows of a way I can get passed "a barrier" I feel when trying to feel others' emotions. It's also difficult to distinguish between MY feelings and another person's feelings.

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Axelkin (1 posts)
13 years ago (2009-07-08)
insight has a point that the later you develop or realize your ability the harder it is to understand and control it. Also, depending on how a person is raised and treated during the time of when the gift shows up has an effect. Empathy is very hard to understand to begin with and has many levels of development. I believe I was born an empath but with my family moving when I was six I forgot most of my memories from before that. But I do remember at a very young age that I would "feel" things I know I should not. I did not have anyone to talk to (I was an only child) and my parents where always busy. Needless to say I was very confused at what was happening to me. And I am sure you are extremely frustrated. I have come a long way since then and only started to learn how to control it when I was 17. Keep in mind, there are many other people out there with not just empathy, but many different abilities. Unless you have someone who is very close to you (you said that your mother and grandfather where empaths) to teach you, you will have to learn by yourself. There are many forms of teaching the control of different abilities, but the most common thing you must learn first and foremost is to learn how to block the emotions from getting to you. I found that building what I call a "wall" around my mind helps keep the emotions and voices at bay. Only extremely strong emotions or focused emotions can come through, and even then most of the time it is just light. What I can suggest is that if you do not have someone to teach you the basics, find either a type of culture you are interested in or biologically linked to and study their techniques on meditation and mind control. It will make it easier for you to learn how to control your empathy. I hoped that will help you on your start to finding your path.
insight (1 stories) (21 posts)
14 years ago (2009-04-06)
i thnk that because you just developed your ability then it might be a little bit harder to control. I'm a born empath and even before puburty I could feel peoples thought. I thnk the more you think about it the worse its going to get. Just don't thenk about it and youll block it all out. At least that's how it works with me. 😊
VulpesVulpes (guest)
14 years ago (2009-01-22)
Oh, there's always more to learn academylin, it's half the fun.

Personally, I tend to ignore the Chakras as individual nodes of power, and move the energy around my body and aura in a far more instinctual way, visualising it as a whole wave of energy travelling as one, as opposed to through many associated 'gates'.

I can raise a great deal of said energy with this technique, though it tends to be quite draining as you can no doubt imagine.

I realise of course that I am indeed utilising my Chakras when I do this, I just found my own way to 'hot wire' the system, so to speak. I could switch over the the accepted methodology of course, but I tend to live by the saying that if it ain't broke, don't fix it eh?
academylin (14 stories) (303 posts)
14 years ago (2009-01-22)
I know "om" is root
"vvvve " is pineal, (third eye)
Blah! Mantras aint my thing!
academylin (14 stories) (303 posts)
14 years ago (2009-01-22)
Vulpes vulpes, a great way of controlling your chakras and simple too!
Chakras each respond to vibrational tone... Just leaves us to figure which one affects what?
Hurrah! More to discover.
Linx 😆
VulpesVulpes (guest)
14 years ago (2009-01-22)
This is part of a reply that I posted elsewhere that might come in handy for you. I'm an empath, and it worked for me.

It isn't a solution for the wider issue of gaining control of your empathy though I'm afraid, but it's a good trick to give you a little breathing space if things get overwhelming while you learn.

The actual trick is quite simple. All you need to do when you find yourself overwhelmed by stray voices or stray emotions is Hum or sing softly to yourself, preferable under your breath while vibrating your diaphragm. The basic idea behind doing this is to turn your thoughts and vision inward and concentrate on your own emotional state, so that the stray thoughts and feelings of others cannot gain a hold over you. Hearing your voice vibrating in your chest helps shut everyone else out audibly as well, which is also good.

Hope that helps, and good luck.
aquiwill (guest)
14 years ago (2009-01-17)
thanks I will look at both, ill look at chakras by goggling it and seeing what comes out.
academylin (14 stories) (303 posts)
14 years ago (2009-01-16)
Being able to control your own chakras and knowing your own heart centre plays a large part in trying to filter others emotions from your life/ being.
I have unfortunately gone beyond " the simple chakra guide " so wouldn't know a link to send you to, but google chakras and start with what you can understand, it really doesn't need to get advanced (it's just that I'm nosey!)
These control your energy centres and eventually, with PRACTISE you will be able to attune to recieve more or LESS of other peoples emotions. You decide once you got the control.
Happy learning, take it slow!
Lin x
TheDemiurge (2 stories) (17 posts)
14 years ago (2009-01-16)
check out my story on need help controlling my third eye, its a similar story and the comments may help you. One thing you can do to the crowded rooms is give a vibe of " its OK, be calm or be happy", and the room will calm down for you.

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