It started with a dream. I have had quite a few dreams with recently deceased relatives/close friends actually, but the most recent was very emotional for me. My Grand Uncle passed away 4 or 5 days ago, and his funeral was today. 3 days ago he came to me in a dream, but I had never seen him before so I didn't actually know it was him (although I wouldn't have recognized him). I was asleep on my mom's couch, and he appeared cold, burned, and very much dead. I only found out today that he was cremated, along with the rest of my family.
He came to me last night (actually around 2:30 a.m. This morning) but I was very frightened. There was only one little lamp on, and I saw a shadow of a head on a nearby wall. A few moments later, he was unscrewing the light in the lamp but stopped when I said he was scaring me. I asked him to give me a sign that he was still in the room with me a few moments later, and he began moving a few little knic-knacs my mom keeps on a shelf, like he was trying to get to a picture of my grandparents (his brother and sister-in-law) which was behind the candles he was moving. After that, I heard him pacing the floor beside me, going back and forth from our fireplace and a nearby door. I asked him to give me a sign, if it was my grand uncle John, and to move the door of a cabinet that was in the room. Needless to say, the door moved. Alot. I freaked out, and told him to go, that I was scared. I heard him then walk to the fireplace, and he disappeared into the embers of the unlit fireplace.
The next day, my mother was cleaning, and she went to the lamp he was playing around with, and told me the light was unscrewed.
I don't think my grand uncle wanted to be cremated, and he came to me to help him.
I feel terrible for not helping him. Did I do the right thing by telling him to go? I couldn't actually see him besides part of a shadow, I could only hear him, so does that make it less of a paranormal experience?