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I Had a Conversation with my Dead Mother


I post this here now although I had the experience 1 year ago. I did not know it was a psychic experience then but thought it was a very strange, extremely vivid, unusual and incredible dream. I was so upset by it, I went on several unexplained mysteries sites after telling my husband about it. Everyone, everyone, thought it was really weird including my 53 year old husband who is a level headed lawyer.

The background info: I am 53, college educated female, and the parent of 4 grown children. I had a close relationship with my mother who had died 6 months before the dream or psychic experience. She and I were estranged at the time of her death. There was a problem concerning her will. She wanted to leave everything to her son, my brother, who had been a 'failure in life' according to her and had never done anything for her or helped her in any way over the past 25 years.

I on the other hand had spent over 20 years helping (with errands as she did not drive) and including her in my family and helped in the past few years several times a week. As she aged and became more frail I took her to doctors appointments, did her laundry, cooked, looked out for her, had my kids cut her grass, and had her living in my home for several months on different occasions.

In her last years she had become increasingly demanding of me and I tried to be patient and accommodate her as much as possible. 5 months before her death, when her will became known to me I said to her, "Well, if Tom (my brother) is going to inherit everything, shouldn't HE be taking care of you?" Tom was living in her house while mom was staying in my home as she was quite frail but otherwise capable of caring for herself. Husband and I asked her to go back to live in her house with Tom and after many fits of temper and much hostility she consented to be moved back to her home. However, at that point I then refused to continue to help mom feeling that perhaps it was Tom's turn to help as he was being the sole beneficiary in her will.

The psychic experience is as follows. I woke up one morning 6 months after my mother died, agitated and extremely upset. I 'dreamt' mom had been talking to me. Her voice was so clear and so vivid and so bright and her mood in the dream was not something I could conjure up. It was her, there was no mistaking the experience, no how, no way, it was her. Her state was desperate, almost panicked, rushed and agitated. She said she had been trying to reach me and she didn't have much time. She then went on to tell me she wanted me to know she loved me. She didn't say she was sorry for all the problems in the last months before her death but she said she loved me and cared about me and didn't want to go on bad terms. I told her I loved her, too. It was important to me to tell her that and I made an effort to. It was difficult to speak with her. There seemed to be some kind of barrier. Then we chatted some more but it wasn't easy to communicate. It was like I was losing her. I remember asking her where are you and although she alluded to something she didn't want to or couldn't tell me. I don't remember now how the conversation ended. Almost like I lost her, like on a phone line. but when we did chat on a little bit, it was pleasant.

I never in my life had a dream which was a conversation. I never in my life had a dream which was a vivid, clear, conversation in which I could ascertain anyone's mood as I could this one. I couldn't have imagined her mood. I'm just not that good with people I can do that. I told people about the dream and its affect on me and everyone agreed something strange had happened. I didn't know it was a psychic experience until I saw a program about such people. Then I knew it had to be.

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nyxpooka (2 posts)
10 years ago (2010-10-30)
I have had several of these experiences. They are always during sleep or lucid sleep, and they differ from regular dreams because of the extreme detail, color and often brightness of what I see. I can usually expect a dream about most of the people I have been very close to after they pass away.

But having lost my mother just a few days ago, I have been getting a few dreams where she is calling me and I cannot find her. Or that I ask people where she is and they tell me that I have to find her. I don't know what this means. I have never had a problem finding someone before. Any suggestions? I desperately want to know my mom is well and fine in the afterlife, but I just can't seem to find her.
ERP (1 posts)
10 years ago (2010-03-21)
I had a dream few night ago, and its not the first dream I have had like this.
I was outside my parents house, on the street directly opposite where I walked up to my husband who was stood by a parked small truck, almost like a builders truck... I remember seeing the scar across his stomach from the operation he had, but it was healed, but still clearly visible (But I think he was wearing a t-shirt) so I'm not sure how I saw that. I walked towards him, and the feelings I felt were of those that he left me and I finally found him to speak to him. I approached him and asked him to come back home (home pointing to my parents house) and I told him repeatedly that I missed him so much and he replied back that he couldn't come back home although he would like to he was happy where he was, I again asked him to come home and I told him I loved him and was really missing him so much. I remember looking into his eyes, they were filled with tears, but not tears of sadness, more like tears of love and missing me, when I told him I missed him, he told me he missed me too a lot. I then went on to tell him I missed how he used to tickle my ear (which he used to) and I tickled my ear to show him, I said I missed him doing that, and he smiled and still with tears in his eyes said he missed it too. But he couldn't come back home.

Then, I felt my cat jump up on my pillow as I slept, I was half asleep half awake, felt like I was still half in that dream and half in normal life, and I felt the cat walk along my pillow (which she does sometimes) and lie next to me... Few seconds later it dawned on me that the cat was actually outside, so it could not be the cat, so I forced my eyes open, by which time of course dream was over...

My husband passed away aged 30 from cancer, 3 years ago, as I said this is not the first time I have had dreams in which we have had conversations and spoke about what happened to him.
Sugarpain (2 posts)
12 years ago (2008-03-26)
I saw my mom the morning of her funeral. She came to me in the early morning hours and woke me up by calling my name. When I opened my eyes, she was standing in the bedroom doorway, surrounded by a golden light. She looked young and happy. Her mood was much happier than before she died (heart attack at age 49). She asked me how I was doing and I said, "Not good..." She told me my children looked good and then she was gone. A few months later, after the grief had become almost more than I could carry, she appeared to me in a dream. I hadn't been eating or sleeping well since she passed. She told me she knew I wasn't taking care of myself because she had been watching me and offered me a recipe to help peak my interest in food again. She asked if I could hear her in my dream and I responded, "Yes...Mom!" and she said, "Thank you... Thank you God!" and was gone.
hollinor (3 stories) (127 posts)
13 years ago (2007-12-24)
For months after my mother passed I had horrible dreams about her, but I know why. My mother died from cancer. It was a slow, agonizing death. My sister and I were responsible for her care. Being young and selfish, I didn't listen to the advice of her sisters. I would rather be stupid and stubborn than help my own mother. It wasn't until it was too late that I finally saw that what my aunts were saying made sense and relented to have her moved to where they were. We started the process, but my mom passed a few days later.

After that I would see my mom in my dreams. I would get on the ground, crawling on my knees, sobbing uncontrollably and laying my body at her feet. I would grab her ankles begging her to forgive me, but she would only look at me. She did speak once, only to say that I was grabbing her too roughly. The begging dreams have stopped, but when I do dream about her now, she still seems peeved at me. I carry a lot of guilt where my mom is concerned. Even during her funeral I saw the pastor look directly at me, point his finger at me, and say "It's all your fault!" My sister told me that never happened, but I swear it did!

I wish more than anything I could go back and change everything. I would let my aunts take my mom back with them to her hometown. She always did better when they came around. Had I not been so doggone selfish and stubborn, my mom would still be here to enjoy her 8 grandkids.
Psyichckim (3 stories) (46 posts)
13 years ago (2007-09-18)
I had the same thing kind of with my dad he died and I diddnt speak to him for two years his death destroyed me he came to in a dream and I told him I loved him
BeautyBroken (1 stories) (7 posts)
13 years ago (2007-09-13)
Both my grandmother and my mother have seen my long-dead grandfather since his passing. I'm inclined to think my grandmother's experience was a dream. She was lying in bed when she saw him standing at the foot. He extended his hand and said "Come on Sally. It's time to go..." She said no, that she still had to raise their kids, and again he told her it was time to go. At this point she said she felt moved to take his hand, but told him no again. He disappeared. My mom on the other hand, spoke to her father 9 years after he died. She had just put me down for a nap (I was about a year old) and there was a knock at the door. She answered it and her father stood there. She asked what he was doing there and he said "Go check on the baby..." She asked him again, and how he could know about me, and he warned her to check on me again. When she got to my crib I was suffocating. My blanket had gotten twisted and wrapped around my head. I kind of feel now that he is my guardian angel even though I never knew him.
backhandgrip (guest)
13 years ago (2007-09-13)
Thanks hotandcold. You have a rather unique manner of expressing yourself!
hotandcold (5 stories) (218 posts)
13 years ago (2007-09-11)
My mum had a dream like that last night.

Her Dad passed when she was 4, but she had a dream that he was old now, and they were just sitting in our house at our dinner table like it was an everyday thing to do and having lunch together, like that is what should've been. My mum was crying about it the next day saying it was so real and she wanted it to be real. A bit like a premonition of how it should have been I think, and that my grandad wanted her to know that.


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