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Can Anyone Help Me Deal with my Empathy?


I have been dealing with problems because of my empathy for years and never realized why. I started to get an inkling of what was causing the problems I suffered due to this over the last couple of years. But I have only just felt able to talk about the problem after 3 encounters with psychics over the last couple of months.

It started when I was in school - I didn't realize at the time, but we had some serious issues in the family. I started to get upset all the time for no apparent reason.

When I was in college I met a friend who I had a real connection with. We used to do Psychology and did remote viewing experiments and were about 90% accurate with our drawings. I didn't know at the time but she was self harming, and again for no apparent reason I started to do it too. It was a long time before we actually revealed to each other what we were doing, but she has stopped now thank God and so have I, now I have lost contact with her.

My mum had a bit of a revelation when I was about 21 and her emotional torment consumed me for years. I am starting to deal with it a lot better now but still get upset for no apparent reason when I'm around her.

A couple of years ago I was DJing in a very small pub and had to stop because I started having fits when I was in cramped crowds of people.

The empathy I feel has made me somewhat of a loner as I have got older - I still have my friends but keep them at a safe distance now.

Sometimes I can't even go to the supermarket because I can't be around so many people and get really angry when I go there (I often end up storming out). Sometimes I am fine and must be controlling it, but other times I can't cope with the loud noises and overwhelming stress when I go out.

I'd like to hear from anyone who has had experience dealing with their empathy, because I'm now 27 years old and it affects my relationships and I do just want to be happy.

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BelieveInTheSun (2 posts)
12 years ago (2010-09-11)
I am fairly sure I am an empath also. Since last year my mom has had back problems and had surgery. The day we went to pick her up from the hospital I got this ache in my lower back. She has surgery on her lower spine. Now everytime her back acts up I get that ache in my lower back. Also my mom suffers from depression and whenever she starts to cry I feel very overwhelmed and fell sad, hopless and lost. I later learn that that is what she was feeling. Lastly when my friend was over we were sitting in close proximity to each other and my foot started hurting for no reason. I asked her if her foot was bugging her and she said yes. Oh one more thing 😊 whenever I go grocery shopping or out into big crowds I will get angry, sad, or an other negative emotions for no reason. But I love shopping 😕. If you want to protect yourself I find that reasearching it helps and trying to find a mentor if you want to develop your powers!
Best of luck!
gemma1994 (3 stories) (35 posts)
13 years ago (2009-12-10)
if you want to have contol over yourself then what your need to do is imagine your in a bubble of some sort that's for exapmple blue I find it easier when the bubble has a colour. Imagine every ones energy around you bounces off the bubble if you practice this often with one person then two and so on you will eventually naturally do it that's what is happening to me and its great I can do things more easily now hope it works out for you the same as it does for me 😊
MoonFox597 (3 stories) (13 posts)
13 years ago (2009-02-14)
I understand where you are coming from, I am young but the same thing constantly happened to me, I would at times be so overwhelmed especially at school I would vomit and cry in the bathroom. But I find if you focus on an emotion you've felt before to swallow it, like a sense of depression or happiness then you can over come almost all of the emotions around you. I've got it down so perfectly now that I can seem completely emotionless in a tight crowed which used to haunt me day to day. As for the relationship thing with boyfriends and friends, it's good if you stay a little in tuned with them because I've saved three of my friend's lives when it seemed like nothing was wrong, and I found out my boyfriend had cheated on me also, being empathic can be a real gift.
peaches713 (9 posts)
13 years ago (2009-02-07)
Hi, I know what your going through, I just found out I'm an empath and possibly clairvoyant... But what helps me is my oracle cards... Now some people are like you don't need to use things like that just use yourself... But just starting out it helps me let out all the negative energy and it just clears my head and leaves me clean feeling. So maybe go to a store and see if you connect with anything and just go from there... Hope I was able to help 😆
AprylRayn (3 posts)
14 years ago (2008-09-12)
Hi how are you? I am amazed at your article, I could have wrote it myself. My experiences with empathy are very similiar to yours. I eventually was almost totally depressed all the time. It was taking over my life. I learned how to wash away the negative energy (tricks and techniques like walking in the rain, lying on the ground and allowing the energy to literally flow out of you and into the ground, holding a metal rod that is like a grounding rod to take the energy away. Sometimes simply exhaleing deeply while believeing the negativity is being expelled) these seemed to help me get at least a bit of a handle on it. Of course everyones different. Mostly trust your gut and believe its going to work--thats half the battle. Now I'm trying to figure out why our house seems to be draining every bit of energy out of us! Anyway let me know what works for you or how things are going... PEACE APRYL RAYN
Edmund (578 posts)
14 years ago (2008-07-02)
cckwn... You need to find one or two trusted friends and practice tuning out. Your empath skills are at a all time high due to feeling other peoples emotions for all these years but nobody ever teaches us how to limit the flood... So to speak... So you practice with your friends tuning out or simply put not trying to feel their emotions... Once in a while an object can be used to sort of capture the emotions being broadcast to you... A crystal or a fetish of some kind. But if your good you can move the emotional storm that your feeling down through your body and ground it in the earth or through your hand into water also... But its practice and lots of it with one or two friends to build up the strength to limit it and in case of overload to push it through your body and ground it!
vendettaBabes (3 stories) (335 posts)
14 years ago (2008-07-02)
wow, you guys must be way more experienced at this than me. I want to know all I can about my empathy, any tips will be accepted! Thank you! 😁
bearleeonehere (1 posts)
14 years ago (2008-03-14)
I have been an empath or HSP [highly sensitive person] since I can remember. I am 46 years old now and just figured this out. Over the years esp. When I was younger I was hyperactive or I had ADD or some personality disorder. HSP people have none of these I also believe it has nothing to do with "Psychic Experiences". Only 15 to 20 percent of the population are true HSP. Look up "The Clinical Implications of Jung's Concept of Sensitiveness" by "Elaine N. Aron, Ph.D...". Extreme changes in your life can effect your sensitivity... I recently had an extreme change in my life and my control over my (or should I say other people's feelings) has been lost. I can talk to someone for 1 or 2 minutes and I know if they are a good or bad person. Within minutes after that I can tell if they are healthy or not, if they are not I can not tell what they suffer from I only know they are ill. I seem to soak up peoples whole life of feelings and emotions. I cannot predict the future but I have had bad feelings before terrible things that have happened. I knew when my father died, I felt something bad before Reagon was shot all day on sept 11 2001 I had the feeling of doom, just to name a few. Recently I had to go to the hospital for a test and as I walked down the long hall I saw a woman pushing her son, about 20 years old, in a wheelchair and as they got closer to me I was consumed with the mothers emotions like an invisible cloud or force it was overwelming the first thing I felt was such sadness and she was so tired(emotionally) then I felt a sence of pride in her son and in herself a feeling of survival, by the way her son had MD and was retarded and one another thing was wrong with him but I could not tell what it was, the next thing I felt from her was guilt then unconditional love for her son and that I felt it was in her from the day she knew her son was "different" and then right when I passed her I tryed to give her a "support smile" and she smiled back and I felt her relief and thankfullness then I felt her shame. Then I felt the boys feelings mostly innocence like a child then I felt a peacefullness that I never felt before like he was not suffering but at the same time I felt a strong, not sorrowful, but regretful feeling about his mother like he was a HSP and he felt what his mother was feeling. Almost like he was not retarded. That was three days ago and the emotions and feelings are still bright in my soul but in time it will fade but will never leave me. I feel like my soul is 1000 years old I feel like there may be no more room for any more feelings I feel lost I just can't control it anymore and I don't know what to do. Is this a gift or a curse why do we have this ability are we supposed to know? I just wish 100 percent of the population had whatever this is... It just might take all the evil and illness and sorrow away or at least all people could start CARING again. Think of me as I will you.
GlendaSC (5 stories) (1475 posts)
15 years ago (2007-12-29)
This a deep, hard subject. Trying not to ramble too long, I knew once my daughter was badly hurt before I really knew. I sensed it. Then, a voice, which I've heard maybe a dozen times in my 48 almost 49 years said, "Sometimes people have to have pain to learn..." She was hurt. My husband called from the emergency room. I could have been upset, hysterical, but just dealt with it. I believe, to some degree, living here is a classroom. Catalog what you learn. Don't get too lost in others' pain because it's meant to happen and they are learning. I was once stung over 20 times by yellowjackets, mostly on my face. The doc told my mom they were the most painful stings, but, I never felt them. I just rolled and swiped and didn't ever know, until later, why. It wasn't really "painful" at all - a bit of body shock probably. Anyway, we, as observers, can probably suffer more than the person it is happening to. Sensitive people need to learn how to put up a wall and not feel pain. Mentally. Build it. That's my advice. I've been sensitive all my life in many ways. We learn to give because there are the poor beggars. They are teaching us. So are they richer? Hmmm
aramasamara (22 stories) (577 posts)
15 years ago (2007-11-15)
I agree with realist, anyone that thinks that obviously is seriously ignorant. Also, that can be true, but I've had every scan and such under the sun and they can't find anything. :)
Realist (guest)
15 years ago (2007-11-15)
I can prove you all wrong. I could meet with any of you in a room, you would either deem me worthy of your friendship, or not.
Truth is, everyone has the capability of being both. One on one day, one the other. That's just human nature. Not everyone can be your best friend. Sorry.
real one (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-19)
My question is how do you feel energy with in you, some people here relax and say just feel the energy, but how? How do I relax, how do I know when I'm relaxed?
skippy (2 posts)
15 years ago (2007-10-19)
i tried to stay calm but today I went into a town centre (something which I haven't done in a long time) and it was overwhelming so overwhelming I blacked out. It was like when your nervous and you get butterflies in your stomach, but imagine these butterflies have grown arms and have decided to rip your insides out whilst someone drills into your head.
real one (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-18)
How is it weird or what do you feel skippy, just curious. Do you take this as a bad sitution or good, because look at the positive sides of this change. You probably can help someone that is about to kill someone or their self. Everyone here has been given something specail to help others.
skippy (2 posts)
15 years ago (2007-10-18)
hi I'm 18 and I am slightly confused. About 17 months ago I was hit by a car and put in a wheelchair for 2 months. When I'm finally able to go out again its like I'm being hit with all these emotions. I can't control it I just know what people are feeling and what they are about to do. Is it possible something could have changed when I got run over? You know made me different? If anyone knows how to control it please email me its painful at times. This may sound weird but when someone really loves someone it overwhelmes you.
Katie (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-18)
This is about walking in a room and feeling someone else's emotions knowing before you ask them how they feeling and before you talk to them before they have told you about something.

If something bad has happens to a friend and they are upset and in a mood and they have told you. Like if one of your mate is upset you go in there shoes and you try and understand what they are going through. It just understanding how a person is feeling because most of us have been through similar things such as our hair being cut too short by a hair dresser or the hairdresser had done a wrong style. I think you are just understanding people and listening to people by them telling you things.

I know things by not being told where as you you are feeling how they are feeling by being told by them about something.
Katie (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-18)
hotandcold that is something else which I guess everyone goes through but this is the opposite. You get angry when someone else is angry because of something. Like If someone hit you mate and she got upset you would feel upset because they have hit your mate I think everyone goes through that kind of thing.
hotandcold (5 stories) (218 posts)
15 years ago (2007-10-13)
I have been reading a lot of Empath stories, and by reading them and the comments with them I think I might be. Because, sometimes, if a friend oranother person is telling me something which makes them angry, it makes me angry, even though it has absolutely nothing to do with me, say my friends hairdresser cut her hair in the wrong style, I would feel the anger. Once when my friends boyfriend's pet died, I just felt really depressed even though I had never met the animal. Anyone have any answers? I just thought it was normal, and it happened to everyone 😆 Like I know when someone is upset, and even if they say they arn't I know they are... They can't hide it

Charlotte 😆
noni (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-13)
how grounded are you?
That helps, I think so.
It is very overwhelming sometimes.
Then sometimes it is a very good thing.
Knowing what is going on that you are an empath and not weird, that what I thought (actually truth is ,told more than thought) forever, will help you.
All things have reason, try this view, your an energy source right...ok, if you do not want to get electrocuted, you would take certain measures correct?
So goes with being an empath. That is my opinion. My search for more knowledge has far to go, but for now, this seems to be working.
Ghost_Whisperer (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-12)
I can sense what a person's like too. And there's no way around it; we're all pretty much stuck with empathy so we might as well make the most of it. We're all given these gifts for a reason. Yes, it can cause some discomfort for now, but if we use our gifts to help people karma will help us out in the long run. No one said being psychic would be easy, and everyone with these abilities should expect some tough emotional days. But with empathy we can understand how people are feeling and help them- isn't that worth a few ups and downs for ourselves? Meditate, relax, sleep, read... Do whatever it takes to remain calm through it all. Once we help and heal the ones we care about with our psychic abilities, we may find we wouldn't have had it any other way. Isn't the opportunity to use our incredible paranormal gifts to change people's lives and make the world a better place worth a bit of stress?
Katie (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-12)
Yeah all I have to do is look at someone and then I can see If I can get along with them or not. I can look at someone and I know by looking at them what kind of person they are and what they are like.
bornundervenus (2 stories) (17 posts)
15 years ago (2007-10-12)
Something similar happens to me from time to time, I used to work retail and some people who would come in to the store I could feel their frustrations and wouldn't be able to hold my tonge. I also had a manager that I clashed with majorly on a spiritual level to the point that I was angry all the time for no real reason, needless to say I quit that job. Sometimes when I meet people I know before we ever made contact that we would get along really well, sure enough at my new job I made a friend without even speeking to them. It was a really funny situation. I try to keep myself surrounded by positive energy, I've been working where I am now, though the job is mindless and boring I'm a lot happier.
Katie (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-12)
what is it called when a spirit gets inside you that could of happened to me cause there was someone inside me that how I felt and there emotions were just over all mine. Little of me was still there. Then I went to sleep to get rid of this thing then they told me a story of a near death experiences and then the dream came true. I had near death experience it was kind of impossible that person caused it they broke the double socket and while I was dreaming of them telling me they must of done it. Then a week later I got another death experience.
Katie (guest)
15 years ago (2007-10-12)
It did affect my relationship with my boyfriend as well. Sometimes I'm not myself like I'm feeling someone else's emotions and that did happen while I was on holiday. I couldn't do nothing cause there was half of me and another person inside me that how it felt and I was getting there emotions. I was confused my mind was getting mixed up didn't know what was happening. That person took over me but I could still feel myself.

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