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How To Control Empathy?


I posted a week ago about how I was feeling other people's emotions and it was confirmed I am an empath. But, it's getting out of control. I have no idea what I'm doing!

I'm not sure how it developed seeing there's no history in my family AT ALL. I've always been able to understand people. Put myself in their shoes, but never like this. Until I was with my friend and we're talking and I just looked her in the eyes very intensely, really focusing on what she was saying and I felt her emotions and that's where it all began. Just out of the blue it developed. The only thing I can think of is that my friend sees spirits, She can see them and talk to them. I thought maybe one of her spirits gave me an ability or something? I'm not sure,

I don't think I even feel my emotions anymore. It's everyone else. When I'm with her, I feel EVERYTHING she feels. When she's dizzy I'm dizzy, when she's excited, I'm excited. When she's crying, I'm crying. It's ridiculous. I feel what everyone else feels, but it's EXACT with my friend.

My ability is fading away and I really don't want that to happen. I was hoping maybe someone knew how to control it? I want to have it. It's amazing, but I also would like to know how to control it. I've been able to help some people with this ability and it feels great. But it also has it's negatives. For instance: I read someone who was very homicidal and I felt like killing someone. Or when I'm around someone angry I feel like I need to punch walls and I feel like screaming at people, but I personally don't feel that way. It's not my emotion.

Like I said, I don't want to lose the gift. But, I also would LOVE to know what I'm doing!

Any advice would be great!

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Psychicgirl18 (3 stories) (69 posts)
9 years ago (2012-08-12)
Hello Livi, I know exactly what your going threw, I'm an empath as well. I know a really good trick for the emotional overload, just visualize a shiled of any shape or form, a glass window, or just a light surrounding you as suggested above by other people, it really helps!

If you have any question feel free to email me, its on my profile, or just leave a comment. 😊
IslVoter (257 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-18)

I'm not an expert at "meditation" because the idea of sitting navel gazing just makes me jumpy. I do what I call Bringing Down the Light--just visualizing a serene white light coming through your crown and slowly moving down throughout your body. Visualize it slowly, feeling as it reaches every part. Experiment with using different colors of energy--yellow, purple, blue--whatever puts you in a safe, calm place.

Grounding is also helpful, visualizing grounding your own energy through your feet (and hands if you want) down into the ground like electrical tree roots--down and down.

There is also centering, which is bringing energy up through ground (and simultaneously down from crown?) and centering it in your gut area. I have tried this a few times and don't like the results but others do.

Leave whatever else you do to your inner self. If you are visual, some things might just start happening on their own. I sort of ground (it looks more like a grid) all through earth, from myself at earth's upper atmosphere, then from our solar system out, then from our galaxy... You get the idea. For me that is comforting, but everyone is different.

You can also envision a bubble of light, of whatever color, surrounding you, your baby, your husband--anyone you love and wish protection to. My mom used to call it the Pink Egg. She would say she was sending the Pink Egg whenever we were traveling, taking a hard test--whenever there was a challenge in front of us. Or whenever she thought about us.

What you do should come from the love in you, extending out to those around you you love. Whatever that is--it is your protection--from anything. You can never be harmed, energetically, if you remove fear. So make that be your goal. Fear is everywhere, but begin to weed it out as you can.

Pink egg to you and your family.

LovelyLivvy22 (2 stories) (4 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-18)
Thank you so much for all the comments! (:
It was very helpful!
I've never done any sort of meditation at all. Truthfully, I don't know how...
Can someone help me out with that?
Feel free to e-mail me.
Popcorn_and_jellybeans [at]
blackrose193 (1 stories) (5 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-15)
if you are close to someone, they are very open with you, so being able to feel that person's emotions is spot on and very powerful. I'm like that with my best friend. I feel the same way about feeling everyone's emotions. I sometimes feel like I don't even know if I can have my own emotions anymore. But you still can. Meditate and that will help you come into contact with your spiritual self. That will make you more controlling of your gift and you will be able to feel what you feel. ❤
LeeannMinton (1 stories) (14 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-14)
Quayempathy is right. I'm an empath and it really is about finding that center or Happy place/calm place, as you do not always want to be Happy, but rather instead calm. Meditation if it isn't something you do, you should definitely try calming music with natural sounds such as wind blowing and rain falling are always good places to start. Also come up with a simple mantra, I like to use Woosah, when I say this I am instantly settled with a sense of calm. Whatever mantra you choose, just make sure that it can both calm you when you say it alowed and within your mind. When you say it allowed it should also help you to breath, because I think that is something we as empaths tend to forget to do. From the sounds of it you are an emotional empath so you take on the actual emotions of the people. I myself am a physical empath, I take the emotions on as a feeling of pain. Good emotions are more of a tingle or a sort of high euphoria almost drug like in nature. Anyway I hope this was helpful.
IslVoter (257 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-13)

You might look at some of the posts AnneV has made about out of body experiences because much of what you describe sounds like you are experiencing some sleep paralysis where your body won't move but your mind is awake. 3 a.m. Is the classic time for those kind of things to happen, and the roaring noise or other kinds of vibrations are part of the pre-projection phenomena.

With a new baby, it might be logical to think that some of your family who have passed have come to see (or protect) the baby, so you need to be able to separate these other things from the entity itself, and to remove the fear from it.

There are many sites where people report their out of body or astral projections. You may begin to recognize some of the things you've experienced.

So do some research on the web, read Anne's posts because she has several links posted--and remove as much of the fear from this situation as you can--for your baby's sake.

Good luck. Ask more questions if you would like.

Isle - Lora
LovelyLivvy22 (2 stories) (4 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-13)
ImWatched would you please email me? Please
Popcorn_and_jellybeans [at]
Thank you so much!
ImWatched (4 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-12)
I have had this problem for quite a while but never thought anything of it, but now we have a baby and I would like to know what is going on and if it is a danger to our child. Whenever I am alone in a room, day or night I feel like someone if watching me. The hair stands up on the back of my neck and I just feel uncomfortable, after this happened so many times, I confronted my wife, and to my surprise she has felt this way too. I have woken up unable to move on numerous occasions, I can look around but can't move my body. I and my wife heard a noise when we moved in that sounded like a weed-eater at about 3 in the morning this only lasted for about 5 seconds but was terrifying. I myself have never seen anything but my wife has claimed that she saw a red figure laying in bed where I usually do when she woke up a few weeks ago. Most recently a few of our appliances in the house seem to do what they want to on their own, last night as I went to bed the fan that is fairly new just turned off by itself, nothing is wrong with the fan at all. I understand that some of these things could be electrical and I have an electrician coming to the house next week.
The thing that bothers me the most is the fact that we have a 3 month old baby, and I do not want anything to happen to hurt her. I pray before going to bed most nights, I know not as often as I should, but I do believe in God as well as Jesus, I always pray for guidance and forgiveness when I pray and I ask him to watch over us all as a family. I know this probably sounds off the wall but I wanted to ask you because I would like to know what is going on once and for all. I don't know what this is or what I should do. Can anyone help? Or tell me what this is?
HopeS24 (1 stories) (2 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-12)
i have the same problem... I don't know how to control it, I see/hear spirits and I am also empathetic. And I really don't know how to control it... I'm just like you, it gets way out of control sometimes and its hard to handle! If you figure out any ways I would love to hear!
- hope
quayempathy (1 stories) (2 posts)
9 years ago (2012-07-12)
I used to have this same problem until I learned how to control my own empathy... Empathy is about taking on others stresses,pain,guilt,hurt, but also joy, happiness, and etc

The first step in controlling empathy is finding your center. Its about sitting and going to a place where your calm and peaceful. Once you do that then you need to learn how to put up walls to block out some people emotions. You won't lose the power only learn how to tune in and out.

Overall your in control of it... Just feel it doing what you want it to do... Its controlled by the mind and by your own emotions. If you feel yourself getting overwhelmed put up your wall and block it out.

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