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Spirit In Home, Relationship Problems, And Weird Dreams


Unusual spiritual encounters run in my and my husband's family. His family has many a case of ghosts being nearby. Apparently, a little over a year ago, his family had a (religious) spiritual "healer" look into some of the negative spiritual encounters we'd been having. For instance, my eyes turned red (according to my husband) as a result of me feeling drained and extremely defensive as well as angry. At the time he had a religious healer look into our situation, I wasn't okay with it. I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that at that time. My husband basically went against my wishes and it turns out that they told him I have a spirit with me. He told me this recently although the event occurred about a year ago. A lot of his friends and family think there is a spirit connected to me.

Overall, I wouldn't have had a problem with this because I know I have/had some sort of connection with a spiritual being since I was around 10 or 11 years old. I dreamt of this spirit often during my childhood into early adulthood. However, I do not believe the spirit resides within me; more or less I gave him access to my chakra at some point (which I have been trying to remove, but it doesn't always work because sometimes I miss him). This spirit was the first to really introduce me to the concept of lust and I had many dreams about him. Also, he seemed to want to keep me in a depressed state, though I wasn't really sure why. I think the reason has something to do either with feeding off negative energy and/or wanting to prevent me from reaching my full potential.

The problem I have is that this healer that his family consulted also told my husband that he had two spirits, one of which was bad and so he "rested" the bad spirit in my husband's foot because otherwise it could travel up to his brain and harm him. It didn't dawn on me until recently that that doesn't seem to make any sense. How is it possible to control something spiritual by strict physical boundaries? Either they have access to your chakras/energy on some level or they don't. Am I wrong? To add to this, his family has a history of spiritual encounters. I know that when I first met my husband, whenever he'd drink, another spirit would possess him because his eyes looked different. The spirit wasn't dangerous, just mischievous and attracted to me. When I realized that was happening, I refused to have romantic contact with him in that state because it felt like cheating.

Sometimes when he drinks now, his eyes change in a different way and so subtly that I'm not sure if it's him or not. There have been times when he acts really mad and I feel it's not him but something else so I try to remove it from him (though I don't have the gift of sight, I can feel the difference; healing is all about weaving energy). When I do this, he gets irrationally angry, tells me to stop, tries to do anything and everything to break my concentration, acts overly aggressive in a manner that isn't normal for him, and threatens to harm himself. So... Is it me? Or is it him? (Also, as a note, this usually only happens when I'm depleted emotionally, physically, etc. Usually, it takes a long day or two of someone constantly nagging at me and/or extreme physical exhaustion for me to reach this state. That's usually the only time our arguments escalate this far.)

My husband swears it's the spirit connected to me that pushes him, but I don't really think that's it. What is going on here? When I tell my husband my beliefs on the matter, he doesn't want to hear it or changes the subject. Also, I have been trying to heal myself spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but although he wants to get back on track and start praying/meditating again, he's been avoiding it because he says it would be too difficult. I have a hard time explaining this to others because they would think I'm crazy. What I'm wondering is what should I do?

My husband also told me the reason why my family doesn't like living with me and why I would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone else is because of the spirit I have with me. He says another person wouldn't be able to handle it. This hurt me and played on my insecurities and even though I used to have men chasing after me, I still can't help but wonder if there's some truth to what he said. When I asked him about it later, he acted embarrassed and wanted to pretend it didn't happen. My husband says that he was never angry like this before he met me and it has something to do with the spirit that is connected to me. However, the stories he told of his past do not agree 100% with this statement (i.e. He used to get angry before me, too). Any thoughts on this?

Today, I was thinking about this encounter and fell asleep. In my dream, I sought a mirror. In the mirror, I watched as my reflection showed not only me, but another being. This other being was trying to control me and started acting arrogant as if it knew more than I did. I basically told the being it wasn't okay to use me and it needed to leave. It still tried to stick around until I prayed to a religious figure for help, and then I woke up from the dream.

I am pretty sure there is a spirit residing in our home, but the spirit seems neutral. It's let us know it's there by little things like playing with my husband's phone (it randomly goes off keyguard with no one remotely near it), odd noises, etc. I think this spirit is unrelated to the ones mentioned before now. For instance, one night recently I was putting off going to sleep when I heard a rustling sound in the kitchen. When I woke up my husband, the noise quit. It was really weird.

What is going on in this situation? I would seek out a counselor/therapist but they'd just think I'm crazy.

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MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-07)
All of those meditations techniques sound excelent.

A dream journal is also a very good idea.

Be careful with your intuition, if you feel like your subconcious is flooding into your concious.
Just be sure to think out any decisions you might make, and play out in your mind or meditations how those decisions might play out.

Don't crack any nuts unless you have to, and don't burn any bridges unless you don't want to go back, etc etc.

Beyond that, seems like you have a game plan.

And it eems like you are already starting to feel more refreshed, if only a little.

God bless, and good luck.
Love1st (guest)
6 years ago (2014-04-06)
Whenever I feel stressed, what works for me is to take a bath or shower. It helps me feel cleansed and relaxed. Plus, a 30 minute bath is not considered strange even by people who might find it strange to meditate for 30 minutes. Or tell people you will be in your room studying. You don't have to tell them what you're studying (i.e. Meditation). Also, a lot of buddhist temples will offer meditation classes to the public (usually for free with a suggested donation amount). If it helps, go with a friend/family member.

Other things that help me relax and get into a meditative frame of mind: tai chi, artwork (especially sculpting because I love the smell of clay), swimming, dancing, and pretty much any form of art. If I'm hyper, sometimes exercise/housework helps but usually I just have to force myself to take a breather and start meditating.

There is something to be said for simply learning to be still and being able to empty the mind, so to speak.

Mr. E and others,
In reference to all the weird dreams I've been having, I feel like my subconscious is flooding my consciousness with everything it's been holding back. I'm going to go start a dream notebook because my dreams, though not seemingly relevant at the time, do have some relevancy in my everyday life later on. They may prove useful later. I have a feeling I'm going to need to rely on my intuition a lot in the coming months. It weirded me out at first mostly because it's new for me. But now, I am starting to regard it as a blessing.

My husband and I have a deep love for each other. Even in my dreams and spiritually, he protects me. I think this has something to do with why we are attacked spiritually more than most (or at least it seems this way).
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-05)
Part of the distractions could be negative energies tied to you.

There have been times when I tried to meditate in the past, and everytime I did, I would always vividly see, in my mind, a swarm of insects coming at me.

No matter how many times I did it for a few weeks, or how many times I did it a day, my mind was always drawn back to the swarm.

It seems it dealt with energy work someone had done on me without my permission.

Whenever someone does energy work on another person, ESPECIALLY without their permission, it finds hook points, and draws energy to get whatever result it is intended to get.
This is where things get wonky with energy work.

The intent might be to make someone happy.
So, the energy, once released, will have that intent...
However, the energy will find it's own path to make that happen.
It's like how in Jurassic Park the character that Jeff GoldBlum talks about the drop of water finding the path of least resistance and following that path.

So, even though the intent is for the person to be happy, the result migh tbe that the person has their hands cut off, and goes through these terrible ordeals, and then has a realization and becomes happy because of it.

In any case, for me, this is where I started applying the basics of grounding and shielding to begin redirecting and "purifying" energy.
The problem is that it still takes time, a lot of effort, and patience.

Also, assuming there are influences on you that are causing the distractions, you need to find a way to determine the base of the energy, and what intent it has.

If it's a positive intent that you want to occur, you could make a new path for it to follow, so that it's not literally fighting against a hurricane to get the result.

If it's a intent you don't want, then you need to find a "technicality" for it to hook up to and feel fulfilled about.

Beyond that, I don't diagnose or do energy work.

So, if you feel like it is absolutely something that has energetically influenced you, and that you need help removing it, then I'd suggest you find someone that you can talk to that can do that.

Beyond that, keep working on meditation.
Try thecleansing one I discribed more if if feels like energy from a outside source is trying to distract you.

With cleansing, you will most like have visions take you away.
Just roll with them, then, when you come back from them, go back to the cleansing exercise.

If there's a lot of energy there that needs to be cleansed, you will spend a lot of time cleansing... Maybe even two weeks.

Once you get it under control, you can do a less intense cleansing routine.
AmberEyes (2 stories) (116 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-05)
Maybe you should find a quiet place where there aren't many sounds to distract you. If that isn't possible, you live in a busy house for example, you could try getting up a little earlier whilst everyone else is sleeping so you get that peace. I don't think there is any technique that 100% works for everyone, you just have to find one that works for you.

For me its as simple as sitting on my bed, closing my eyes and focusing on nothing but the darkness. I get distracted easily too but the more you persevere the easier it gets.

If you could, or felt like it you could try yoga classes to help quiet the mind. Or even drawing or some other peaceful activity that causes you to block out everything and work solely on that. Just so you get used to removing yourself from everything else. Even singing, listening to music or playing an instrument? Anything soothing really. Then once you have that down you can try putting it into practice.

But do whatever is right for you, if you feel like none of my suggestions help or you could think of something better then disregard them. Its all about what you find works for you. 😊
Babyj7 (8 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-05)
Yeah I know. Do you have any guides when it comes to meditation. I have trouble letting my mind relax an not focusing on everything around me like sounds
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-05)
Yes. Grounding specifically helps with that.

It didn't happen overnight.
Babyj7 (8 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
Cool thanks I'll keep trying. Did meditation help you with controlling your anxiety I have it a lot for no reason. I read where you said that you learned to control your emotions is that important when it comes to dealing with spritis. Because I get irritated easy.
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
I have some suggestions for meditations in my profile.

Sometimes the biggest thing is finding some alone time for yourself.

It's hard to give a pill that works in every situation.

I think you'll do fine, just don't give up hope.
Babyj7 (8 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
Thanks. Yeah your right sometimes the best thing to do is to set back an watch, but that can be hard sometimes when they seem to be around all the time an the more they are the worst my head hurts. I've been trying meditation but I'm not real sure how to do that yet it's still a working progress
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
The question of free will is definitely a hot debate, in both the physical world, and the spirit world.

It's interesting, sometimes the key to understanding the other side is taking a small step to the left and observing.

I hope things start going better for you.
Babyj7 (8 posts)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
That's cool that you don't mind them being around I've been dealing with spirits all my life I don't mind them being around either but they scare me sometimes. I haven't really figured out what I can do I just know that I've seen an them. I had one say my name. I dream about them. I really don't know what to do any helpful suggestion
Love1st (guest)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
[at] MRE,
Thank you for pointing out that part about free will. I consider free will to be one of the most sacred things people have. It kind of put things into perspective for me.

[at] PsychicJR, For me, I don't mind spirits being around as long as they are abiding by "house rules" to love and respect others in the home (namely myself and my husband). I actually think there is one spirit who watches over my husband and I, but in a good way. I'm not sure why, though.

[at] Psychic1, It's good to know someone else can relate to me! Thanks!
Love1st (guest)
6 years ago (2014-04-04)
By BC, I meant birth control choice but was trying to not be so blatant in my wording. What will follow on this comment may be TMI for some, and I apologize ahead of time.

I had a IUD that contained nickel (which was not made apparent to me);copper; and barium sulphate. I had an allergic reaction to some component of it. Additionally, I think it changed the way energy flowed through my chakras.

It's been a few days since I've had it removed, and I feel a whole lot better. The physical and emotional changes since having it removed have been moderate and steady. The spiritual and mental changes seem more drastic, but it could just be that I was more depleted in these respects. I've been having weird dreams every day since then, but I feel a lot more refreshed and full of positive energy. I also am able to study with more ease.

I thought I was simply under a lot of stress and that was why I was feeling horrible, but when I got hives and was consulting a family member, they told me I should consider getting the IUD removed.

I don't know if I'd recommend it for someone else even without an allergy because I think it affected the energy/air (chi) /chakra flow since it's an object that doesn't belong in the body. (Plus, I believe one of the ingredients in it is there only for the purpose of allowing X-rays to find it in the event it gets lost in the body, meaning it is slightly radioactive though not enough for the FDA to find issues with it.)
Psychic1 (1 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-31)
Wow I read your story and it sounded like my own life except I'm not married, Hes my fiance and his family has no belief in spirits! Until they met me! Lol I have been where you are, and the problem is you are highly intuitive and probably psychic! You just have to learn how to use your powers and they won't depress you.
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-31)
In the end, it depends on the kind of energy you want to work with.

If you don't have permission, you can expect their energy to fight you.

When you do have their permission, it's easier to work on them.

There's a lot more to it than that, but that's the simple break down of it.

Really, when it comes to anything in life, the only limitation is what you physically or energetically can or can not do.

But doing energy work on a person without their permission is the path of taking away a person's free will.

I'm sure you intended the best. But, especially if he is reacting the way he is, the isn't the way to do it, for now.
PsychicJR (8 stories) (541 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-30)
Try to get rid of the spirits asap that's all I can tell you
Sorry don't know much I think a bc choice is a before christ (actually its is best choice or at least I think so)
AmberEyes (2 stories) (116 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-30)
Hi, I read your reply and was wondering what is a BC choice? Sorry its made me curious 😊
Also, if you decide you need more advice or reassurance just post and I'll try and help. 😳
Love1st (guest)
6 years ago (2014-03-30)
[at] AmberEyes and [at] MrE,
Thank you both for your input. I still feel that staying with my husband is the right thing to do for now intuitively. Whether that is due to love or due to it being a learning experience for me, I'm not sure. I imagine it's probably both. Before I make any life-altering decisions, I am going to try and clean up my life and myself. I don't blame my husband for everything, but want to figure out what is going on to heal the relationship.

I was able to link part of my low energy levels to a medical problem that I hope to get cleared up in the next week (or at least start on the healing process). I believe this has affected many areas of my life (emotional, physical, spiritual). All I can say is ladies, be careful of your BC choice and research it thoroughly to include what may be considered anecdotal evidence.

I will do my best to break ties with the spirit I mentioned. Usually, it is when I am in a weakened state that he tries to re-attach himself, and I am well aware that he is not really helping me reach my full potential.

My husband refuses to give up alcohol, at least at the moment, even though he knows it's not good for him. I won't stay with him forever if he continues down this path, but I want to see if he changes if I make it easier for him to do so by healing myself first. We are also considering a move that may be beneficial to both of us.

[at] MrE,
I wondered if I should have tried to do energy work on him without his permission. To be honest, I'm not even trained to do it; it's more something that I do intuitively. I had heard conflicting information with some people saying it was okay to do cleansing work on family members without their permission and others saying it wasn't.

My husband comes from a more superstitious background, and sometimes I think it causes him to fear the spiritual realm. If I tell him about my experiences, it freaks him out while at the same time, he'll trust people who say they are healers (whether or not they are). For instance, if I told him I was trying to remove a bad spirit's connection from him, he'd think I was crazy. Instead, he would try to say that it wasn't him; it was something with me or that I'm imagining things or something. At the same time, if a professional healer were to tell him that, he'd believe him/her. (One actually did just that about a year ago, and he believed her.) And sometimes, this causes me to second-guess myself.

Thanks again to both of you for your help! Comments are always appreciated; it usually helps to have another person's perspective!
MrE (1 stories) (168 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-30)
Well, if your husband had a "bad" spirit, and the "healer" tried to trap it in his foot, maybe it got out, and got pissed with him.
But yes, the trapping of a spirit in a foot does sound pretty silly.

The better course of action would be to remove it.

The only reason I can think of for a healer to not remove it would be that your husband did not give them permission to remove it, for whatever reason.

In the same respect, even though your intentions were good, you shouldn't do energy work on another person without their permission.

Meditation is, indeed, the best route. Spirits that don't want you to be stronger than you are will subtly make it feel like meditation won't matter.

The best way to describe the feeling is like... If you haven't worked out for 10 years, then you start working out... You are just tired, you are exhausted, and disheartened. It feels like you can never get better, and you want to just give up.
If he is drinking, then it's just augmenting that feeling.

As far as your feeling of missing the spirit attached to you goes...
That is a form of addiction. It happens almost every time. It's why drug addicts don't quit, and it's why people don't stop eating.
In regards to that, you need to make a choice, and stic with it, not flop back and forth.

As far as your husband's attitude goes...
If it seems like he is dragging you down, it is time to make a clear ultimatum.
Obviously, as amber said, don't blame it all on him.
However, in the same respect, don't settle for a crappy life.
Come up with a list of the specifc things that you feel need to change.
Then go over the list, and decide if they really need to change, or if you are being too sensitive about them.
Be prepared from him to blame it on you, and go over everything in your mind that you feel you are at fault about.
Before delivering the ultimatum, do what you feel like you need to do to cover the things you specifically feel at fault for (don't blame yourself for the spirit, the steps to fixing that would be meditating)

The thing you don't want is for him to pull you down with him.

Ultimatums are not easy either. You have to be ready to follow through with what you need to do that would be best for yourself, and everyone involved.

In any case, those are my thoughts. Feel free to use whatever you want of them, or disregard them.

God bless and be well.
AmberEyes (2 stories) (116 posts)
6 years ago (2014-03-30)
Okay, since no one has commented yet I'd like to try and help but feel free to disagree or disregard what I'm saying if it doesn't feel right to you.

From reading your story, I think that your husband is looking for a scapegoat for his issues and he has chosen you. This is not saying that he has targeted you because he has a hidden agenda against you or anything. But maybe he cannot accept that he is responsible for his actions and so subconsciously decides to blame you. It is often difficult for anyone to accept part of the problem lies within themselves so try and understand it from his perspective too. However, I feel you should try and help him/get him help to deal with his anger. But do not confront him and push all the blame onto him as this may upset him further and make him more unwilling to work with you. Acknowledge that you both have your issues and working through them together is the best way to tackle them. Also, maybe alcohol is just not a good idea so to avoid more problems the only way is to avoid the drink?

I hope this is useful, but you know your husband well enough to judge if my advice should be followed or not. If you think it will cause more problems than good then please dont. I just feel like I need to try and help.

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