Unusual spiritual encounters run in my and my husband's family. His family has many a case of ghosts being nearby. Apparently, a little over a year ago, his family had a (religious) spiritual "healer" look into some of the negative spiritual encounters we'd been having. For instance, my eyes turned red (according to my husband) as a result of me feeling drained and extremely defensive as well as angry. At the time he had a religious healer look into our situation, I wasn't okay with it. I told him I didn't feel comfortable with that at that time. My husband basically went against my wishes and it turns out that they told him I have a spirit with me. He told me this recently although the event occurred about a year ago. A lot of his friends and family think there is a spirit connected to me.
Overall, I wouldn't have had a problem with this because I know I have/had some sort of connection with a spiritual being since I was around 10 or 11 years old. I dreamt of this spirit often during my childhood into early adulthood. However, I do not believe the spirit resides within me; more or less I gave him access to my chakra at some point (which I have been trying to remove, but it doesn't always work because sometimes I miss him). This spirit was the first to really introduce me to the concept of lust and I had many dreams about him. Also, he seemed to want to keep me in a depressed state, though I wasn't really sure why. I think the reason has something to do either with feeding off negative energy and/or wanting to prevent me from reaching my full potential.
The problem I have is that this healer that his family consulted also told my husband that he had two spirits, one of which was bad and so he "rested" the bad spirit in my husband's foot because otherwise it could travel up to his brain and harm him. It didn't dawn on me until recently that that doesn't seem to make any sense. How is it possible to control something spiritual by strict physical boundaries? Either they have access to your chakras/energy on some level or they don't. Am I wrong? To add to this, his family has a history of spiritual encounters. I know that when I first met my husband, whenever he'd drink, another spirit would possess him because his eyes looked different. The spirit wasn't dangerous, just mischievous and attracted to me. When I realized that was happening, I refused to have romantic contact with him in that state because it felt like cheating.
Sometimes when he drinks now, his eyes change in a different way and so subtly that I'm not sure if it's him or not. There have been times when he acts really mad and I feel it's not him but something else so I try to remove it from him (though I don't have the gift of sight, I can feel the difference; healing is all about weaving energy). When I do this, he gets irrationally angry, tells me to stop, tries to do anything and everything to break my concentration, acts overly aggressive in a manner that isn't normal for him, and threatens to harm himself. So... Is it me? Or is it him? (Also, as a note, this usually only happens when I'm depleted emotionally, physically, etc. Usually, it takes a long day or two of someone constantly nagging at me and/or extreme physical exhaustion for me to reach this state. That's usually the only time our arguments escalate this far.)
My husband swears it's the spirit connected to me that pushes him, but I don't really think that's it. What is going on here? When I tell my husband my beliefs on the matter, he doesn't want to hear it or changes the subject. Also, I have been trying to heal myself spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but although he wants to get back on track and start praying/meditating again, he's been avoiding it because he says it would be too difficult. I have a hard time explaining this to others because they would think I'm crazy. What I'm wondering is what should I do?
My husband also told me the reason why my family doesn't like living with me and why I would have a hard time being in a relationship with someone else is because of the spirit I have with me. He says another person wouldn't be able to handle it. This hurt me and played on my insecurities and even though I used to have men chasing after me, I still can't help but wonder if there's some truth to what he said. When I asked him about it later, he acted embarrassed and wanted to pretend it didn't happen. My husband says that he was never angry like this before he met me and it has something to do with the spirit that is connected to me. However, the stories he told of his past do not agree 100% with this statement (i.e. He used to get angry before me, too). Any thoughts on this?
Today, I was thinking about this encounter and fell asleep. In my dream, I sought a mirror. In the mirror, I watched as my reflection showed not only me, but another being. This other being was trying to control me and started acting arrogant as if it knew more than I did. I basically told the being it wasn't okay to use me and it needed to leave. It still tried to stick around until I prayed to a religious figure for help, and then I woke up from the dream.
I am pretty sure there is a spirit residing in our home, but the spirit seems neutral. It's let us know it's there by little things like playing with my husband's phone (it randomly goes off keyguard with no one remotely near it), odd noises, etc. I think this spirit is unrelated to the ones mentioned before now. For instance, one night recently I was putting off going to sleep when I heard a rustling sound in the kitchen. When I woke up my husband, the noise quit. It was really weird.
What is going on in this situation? I would seek out a counselor/therapist but they'd just think I'm crazy.