A few days ago, on Tuesday, I had to go to school after hours and pick up something for my little brother. One thing you need to know about our school, is that there are some spirits around it. (Some just passing through, and some that stay.) Something that you need to know about me is that I don't normally see spirits, I sense them. But it's gotten to the point where I can find out a whole lot of things about them, sometimes even how they look (which makes up for the fact that I can't see them), and I have also always been able to tell their intentions (i.e., whether they are good or bad).
When I went into the school, I didn't sense anyone there, but I wasn't paying much attention. When I was walking back to the car, though, this cold tingly sensation went up my upper arm, and I sensed a man there, who had grabbed onto me.
I guess it would have made sense for me to be afraid, seeing as I have never had a spirit grab me before, but I wasn't even surprised. First of all, I sensed he wasn't hostile, and second, I knew it was just natural for spirits to be attracted to the people who know they're there.
At first I just told him to leave. I told him that he couldn't come with me, and I politely asked him to let go of my arm. But then, he started talking, like he was just whispering. He kept saying "But it's so cold. It's so cold here and I'm alone." And then suddenly, I could feel EXACTLY what he was feeling in that moment, and. There are no words to describe it accurately enough. Nor would I want to describe it accurately, because I don't want anyone else to know how terrible it is. The sadness, the loneliness. If 'below freezing' was an emotion, that's exactly what it would be like, times five. I literally start crying every time I just THINK about how that little flash of what he was feeling felt like.
Obviously, after feeling that, I had to help him. I told him he could come with me, but ONLY so I could help him, and he couldn't stay permanently. After getting to know him more (and accidently catching more of his emotions occasionally) I'm not sure I would have told him he couldn't stay, now.
The things I found out on my own (without having to ask), is that he is a man, in his early-to-mid thirties. His name started with an 'M', and he died several decades ago. He doesn't have any important ties to the school, he had just "hitch-hiked" there on another person, and never left since.
This is where it gets sad. He had a wife, but they weren't married for very long. She died shortly before he did. (It could have been either hours or days. I'm not sure.) She passed over without him, and he's been alone. He misses her a lot. The reason he hasn't passed over yet is because he's afraid. He's not afraid of God's judgment, like is the case with a lot of spirits; he's afraid of what his wife will think about something. He's afraid to face her, ashamed. He regrets something. He's worried that she'll be disappointed, or.mad. Afraid that. She won't love him any more? I'm not exactly sure of the details. I'm picking up the feelings, but I'm not sure of their reasons, and it's also really hard to translate emotions into words sometimes.
Last night, when I was talking to my psychic friend about this on my phone, he came into my room, and started talking to me. Whenever he came in, I could literally feel the sadness he always has on him. He walked over to me, and asked "You're telling other people about me, eh?" so I told him that if I was going to help him, I needed to talk to other people. He read my texts (I'm pretty used to spirits doing that to me by now) and kind of made a comment about where I said "I think his name starts with an 'M'." So I asked "You're name does start with M, right? Is it Michael?" He told me it was Matthew, so I, in turn, told him my name was Elicia.
I think his wife's name was similar to mine. Whenever I said my name, he kind of whispered "Elicia," and then the sadness I was feeling more than doubled, and I could tell he was thinking about her. I started searching for her name, but then he just mumbled something about having to leave, and went out of the room.
I've talked with him a few more times after that, and I promised him I would help him. The pain he's in is just terrible, and I know I can't let him stay that way. Last night, I was lying awake in my bed, and I could hear him standing in my front yard, and he screamed "HEEEEEELP!" It wasn't really aimed at me, he was just yelling out in general, but the way that scream sounded, the pain, and sadness, and hopelessness that you could just hear, will haunt me for the rest of my life.
I need to help him move on. I know the basics of it, but I've never done this before and I want to make sure that I help him, no matter what. Here's basically what I know: you have to pray for them, and you need to make them see that there's nothing to be afraid of, calm their fears, give them the confidence to go on, and all that. Is that basically it?
Please, please, please help me help Matthew. I really want to help him out of here; if I can't hardly stand a few seconds of what he feels, I can't imagine him having to go through decades that way. And another thing, I want reliable information, because I really want to make sure I'm doing this right, so please don't try to tell me how to help a spirit pass over if you actually have no experience yourself. I don't want something spouted from the internet or TV, I want a REAL answer, from REAL experience. I'm not willing to just hope that whatever show is actually based on truth. Please only tell me how to do this if you have actually done it before, know someone who has done it, have witnessed it in real life, etc. I NEED ANSWERS!