I have precognitive dreams. I've had them all my life. The first vivid precognitive dream I ever had was when I was about 13 or 14. I dreamt about a party in which a girl's feelings got hurt. About 6 months later, it really happened. However, the earliest precognitive dream I had was when I was in elementary school. I had a dream about going into a store and eating all the candy I wanted. A few years later, I was relating the dream to a friend (I was probably about 8 or 9) and she claimed that she had had that dream just recently. The details in our dreams were exactly the same. I argued with her and walked away mad feeling that she was trying to steal my dream. Years later, I would remember this incident and realize that (as a result of other experiences I have had) I had probably 'shared' her dream with her somehow. As a teenager, I dreamt of my brother's death before it happened.
Most of my precognitive dreams are not of 'big' events. They are usually of mundane details such as seeing a person walk down a hall or overhearing a piece of a conversation. However, I have events happen to me everyday in which I've dreamt them before. In addition, every now and then, I'll get a whopper of a precognitive dream in which I'm not entirely sure what to do about the situation. Here is an example: About two years ago, as a grad student, I made a friend of a professor. We had a lot in common as far as family background and interests. I told her that I had precognitive dreams and to my surprise she believed me. Most people, aside from my family, don't believe me. As a matter of fact, she even asked me to tell her when I had a precognitive dream that was about her. I didn't though and this is why.
You see, during the summer after I first met her I did have precognitive dreams about her and they weren't good at all. At the time I dismissed them because I thought clearly these cannot be precognitive dreams. She wouldn't do all that. These must be symbolic for me. Unfortunately, the dreams have come true. Without going into a whole lot of detail (because that would get long and wordy), in the dreams, I saw her lying about various things. I saw her think that a short story I had written was about her (I even heard her thoughts in this particular dream and her thoughts were screaming that I had written a story about her while the whole time she kept up a happy, cooperative facade). I saw her and I get into a conflict of a sort in which she became convinced that I was underhanded and trying to manipulate her. I saw other things too that didn't involve me. I saw her lying about the gender of her new-born child to her colleagues and students. I 'saw' her hearing voices: voices that weren't really there. She just thought they were. I saw her purposely cutting herself in a conscious effort to get attention. There are other things I saw her do but they are really too much to go into detail. I also 'saw' (or perhaps I should just say strongly 'felt') that she had a mental health problem. The point is I saw a lot of negative things about this person.
As I earlier said, I dismissed the dreams at the time I had them because they just didn't make sense to me. I also had precognitive dreams at the time about random people that had nothing to do with her or me. It was like I was being shown a movie reel of two-years-in-the-life-of-being-me. Only the two years was two years into my future. If anyone were to say I was crazy, I'd be tempted to agree with them completely except that more and more of these precognitive dreams from the time period I initially had them have come true in the past two years. Thus, I can't chalk up the precognitive dreams I had about her to my imagination. Clearly, there is more to unfold with this person and it is not going to be pretty.
The point in this is not so much to ask for help in how to deal with this friend. Although, if anyone has advice, I'll listen. The point is what is our ethical responsibility regarding precognition? I understand we are each responsible for our own lives. This person made their choices and will have to live with the consequences of those choices. The same is true for me and for anyone.
However, if we dream something 'bad' that is going to happen to someone, are we morally obligated to tell them? I've had dreams about children being kidnapped and raped and killed (months - sometimes years later- the incident will be shown on the news at which point I will realize the dream was precognitive) and I am tortured by the idea that if I had paid attention to more details of my dreams and done my best to hold onto the dream a few minutes longer, I possibly could have prevented or helped to find these missing children. I suppose the question of moral responsibility and precognition is something that can only be answered by the individual. However, I'm curious to know if anyone else has asked these same questions (I'm sure they have) and what answers they came up with for themselves? Of course, there is the dilemma that most likely no one would believe me if I were to tell them. However, that doesn't preclude my obligation to do my part to try and prevent the pain and suffering of another? Does it?