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I Need Control Over Empath Abilities


My name is Carlos, and I am 15 years old.

For about 3 years I have known that I have abilities. I have premonitions in my dreams, and sometimes while awake. I read minds. I hear spirits, and sometimes see them also. I am also an empath the strongest emotion I pick up on is embarrassment/nervousness. When someone gets embarrassed or if they are about to present a project or something, I can't look at them or listen to them because I can feel they are nervous or embarrassed, and I feel what they are feeling so I just can't do it.

Like a few days ago this girl was getting ready to sing in front of the class. She was acting all excited, but I was over whelmed by the feeling of being nervous so I held up a paper and squinted my eyes shut. (I don't know why this is). That is just what I can do but the reason I am frustrated is I can't do these things when I want to. I have tried to read people's minds, but it does not happen. Emotions come random and are not all the time. I don't see or hear spirits all the time. I can't make a premonition happen when I want it to. It just happens like I will be talking to someone and I will randomly pick up a thought or feel an emotion. Like the other day my friend sent me a message and all the message said was "Aww man she wasted her only wish". And then out of nowhere I thought of Tinkerbell out of the blue. So I asked her was she watching something with Tinkerbell in it and she said yea and then she explained the movie. I think I have heard my dogs thoughts I was trying to get my two dogs into the room so I could go, and the first dog walked into the room, and I was trying to get the other dog in with her (the dog was just sitting there looking at me like I was slow) and from the room I heard a small voice call her name "Sophia" and that's when my dog ran into the room. (Maybe a spirit even?).

I get premonitions at random and not when I need them. (I have had a lot of other experiences but you don't need to know them all) I try meditating but my mind can't shut up (mostly my fault because I can't stop thinking of the day). I want to learn how to make these things happen on command so I can help more people. What is the use of being able to do these things if I can't use them when I want to?

So I was just hoping that maybe you all could give me suggestions on how I could accomplish this goal that I want.

Thanks: D

- Carlos

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verymod (1 posts)
14 years ago (2010-08-03)
The same thing happens to me, preminitions in my dreams, random flashes of things while awake unexpectedly that come true... Also, once I have gotten mad and two separate pieces of glass shattered in the room. (one a glass shelve in a book case and the othera glass filled with water).

I don't understand it? Beats me?
Oracle101 (2 stories) (506 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-26)
If your abilities get out of control when you are angry then it might be your anger which you need to control more than your abilities. I have learned to use my anger in a beneficial way. I control it, it does not control me.

(This is in reply to the question you had posted on my story.)
bennygone (13 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-15)

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6685angels_light (2 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-15)
Carlos, your not alone... I'm an Empath as well along with other abilities that I will not mention. I can feel many emotions especially pain from others, I can sense when others are lieing to me and often hear their thoughts. It always happens randomly, I never had control over it but my fiancee who is a gifted Gypsy has taught me much to build energy so I can focus on controlling my abilities. In doing so I learned a new ability by shielding myself from unwanted emotions and thoughts. I have even backfired an emotion once which was not fun, my abilities often scare me and it is truly difficult to control but it always takes practice, practice, practice, so just have confidence and faith and keep up with the meditation. Much Luck Carlos!
clintonalog (6 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-07)
Empathy is not about control. The illusion of Control brought the problems to which empathy is the answer.

The empath should learn one thing to develop their gift, in order to feel others such as we do, we must have room to do so within ourselves.

Everyone (Yes, everyone), is capable of empathy to currently fantastic degrees. The reason why everyone doesn't, is CONTROL. Give up the idea of control, it is what you came to do. Feel instead. That's what you do. Nothing is under control, and nothing ever will be.

The ability to empathize to the degree that you do currently, is only the beginning.

I use a mantra to give up traces of "control" when I enter into a pure empath mode.

It goes like: I feel nothing but the others.
Don't just say it, mean it.

I do not stay in this mode all day, nor would it be healthy to, it only allows me to deal with one thing at a time, what I feel, and what the others feel.

Keep up the good work, asking questions that can be answered is a great start.

CampHalfblood101 (2 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-03)
i'm a empath too and the two main emotions I feel are anger and sadness and any time someone has these tipes of emotions I usaly try to make them happy or do some thing stupid to take there mind of the subject so carlos use your ability to help people when you can
fossilera (4 stories) (124 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-02)
I'm going to throw another term at you called Shielding, (or known as psychic shielding). Basically, when you practice shielding, you are creating a barrier that separates you from what is bothering you.

I believe there is an article on this site, but if not there are plenty of resources online for methods. My favorite one is called "White Light Shielding"

And then the other way is through meditation.

I used to get overwhelmed as well, so I know how frustrating it can be sometimes
Who_Am_I (3 stories) (9 posts)
15 years ago (2009-12-01)
I understand exactally how you feel... I can't particuarly know how to read minds... But I am a clairsentien empath... I pick up on a lot of emotions and I can sense when there are spirits close to me...

I am new to this as well, but I think the best thing to do for you is to keep meditating and stay relaxed that is how it helps me... I am still trying to develop my new abilities, but just to let you know everybody starts somewhere and it will only get stronger =] just focus your energy on one thing and work your way from there.

Hope this helps
Nguyenkid (14 posts)
15 years ago (2009-11-30)
I'm also a confused empath!
I completely agree how nervousness is such a dense emotion that it is a heavy burden...
Unfortunatly, like you, I tense my legs up and it makes me feel relax.
Of the fives sense, which would you say do you focus your empathy in? Or is used on?
Try to focus on that sense when you are having troubles.
And a big tip is that sometimes regular action can change more than empathy powers can!
If you can't meditate, try hypnosis!
Unbelievible but it's the same thing!
Try YouTube search a hypnosis!
Yes, I'm crazy! I just make my own rules!
Stark (2 stories) (52 posts)
15 years ago (2009-11-30)
Carlos, can you tell me how you read minds? Because I at random times heard a persons thoughts but don't know how it happened and I would like to do this out of my free will.
DeaLetum (3 stories) (20 posts)
15 years ago (2009-11-30)
Well I have an idea that you can try. When you feel the strong emotion, try to push them downward like its going back into the ground. Its called grounding. Simple. I can get past my thoughts and everything when I'm meditating but I can't get past the part when I can feel everything around me vibrating sort of.

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