I think it has been 5 years now since this incident after my husband's grandma passed away, but I will try to give as much information as I can.
I was NEVER close to my husband's side of the family, let alone his grandma because she was ill and I never saw her much. And because my husband and I separated numerous times during the first 2 years of our marriage.
Anyway, immediately after my husband's grandma passed away, I had a very lucid dream about her. In this dream, she came to me. She was so calm and peaceful. Even though I knew that she was not alive, I was not scared of her as I had been with other spirits that appear in my dreams.
She looked at me, and in a very solemn face, asked that everything be white. The color white was very important to her, I think because it symbolized pure and holiness. She was a very devout Christian when she was alive.
At first, I thought it was just some weird dream, but had decided to mention it to my husband anyways.
As it turns out, to my astonishment, my husband's grandma wanted everything to be white at her funeral. It was stated in her will, although I had no idea at the time. I have never seen her will because it didn't concern me. She wanted nothing but white flowers at her funeral and to be buried in a white outfit.
Since then, I have had other dreams of my husband's deceased grandma and grandpa. They only come to me when they have something to tell me and usually only the grandma talks to me. Of course, the only time the grandpa ever said anything to me in my dream was when he was mad at what I had done and was yelling at me.
I was never closed to any one of them. My husband's grandpa passed away one year after I married my husband and his grandma passes away a few months later. I never really knew them, but my husband was very close to his grandpa, until we got married and had too much problems of our own to think of anyone else. I feel bad to this day. I wish I had a chance to get to know the both of them.