I'm An Empath, Now What?

yes, I know I looked on a few 'scientific' websites and took a few tests. But its like when I'm in a room with a bunch of people and one of them is sad I feel sad but its like I actually feel what there feeling and almost why and whos bugging them. I know it sounds crazy but its true.

001919, empaths don't make others feel their feelings, its just the opposite. If you're empathetic, it means you actually feel other's pains, or emotions. If they're happy, you're happy. If they're sad, you're sad. If they hurt, you hurt. Get it? 😳

hi guys I don't mean to be intruding on your conversation but I'm new to empathy... I know I am empathic from previos events... I always knew there was something up but I never knew what... Its like I can control what people are feeling... I feel the need to halp people in danger... I know I am empathic but its like what now? I dream about the future and it scares me... I see things... What should I do? An no I am not crazy I have a great social life (: and I too love twilight and lincoln park (: I'm seeking help. What is this protection you speak of? All I know is that I am an empath please help me control and protect my feelings. Thanks

hemuench described the visualization I was speaking of very well and also made another really good point- Find a good teacher!
Hemuench my name is Jenny. May I ask a question? You mentioned your 3 year old daughter see's spirits. Mine just turned 2. How long has she been seeing them and how did you know? I belong to a local group and have a very good teacher but none of them have children so this is not something they can help with.

I am way older than most of you. I have been an empath my whole life and I just wanted to make a few comments. Someone earlier said you can't control it. As someone who has spent ten years on intensive training I want to tell you all- you can and you should. Speaking from experience, as you get older if you don't learn how to turn it on and off, you will always have problems being in large crowds of people. School is just the beginning. Have any of you gone to a funeral yet? Imagine a friend of yours dies. You not only feel the grief for yourself, but you feel EVERYONE'S grief who is there. And then they hug you and it gets worse. You can actually overload and end up making yourself physically ill. The same thing applies with healing. If you can turn it off you can protect yourself. You also run the risk of losing yourself. After a while, it gets hard to tell what are your own feelings and someone elses. Especially when it comes to family or loved ones. I also saw someone mention using their gift to help others. When I first started using mine I wanted to help everyone. What you need to keep in mind is that not everyone should be helped. Some people are in the situation they are in because they are suppose to learn something from it. Others are in it because they are jerks or stupid and deserve to be there and NEED to learn something from it. Ask yourself if you are really helping them or preventing them from learning a lesson. That was a really hard one for me. Keep in mind to that once people realize that you are good at solving their problems (they don't have to know why) they tend to come to you for everything. Pretty soon your tired and drained and not dealing with your own stuff. Someone also mentioned getting in trouble with your gifts. It is very easy to use your abilities to manipulate people, especially in sales - you can pretty much sell anything to anyone. Just remember, what you do comes back to you! It is a very handy skill to have if you want to get rid of somebody though because you can sense their weak spot and say just the right thing to make them walk away! To learn to protect yourself I recommend you learn some visualization techniques. Once you know how to do that you can ground yourself, visualize your protection and dispell any negative energy that you pick up. Wait until you start going to bars- the negativity will make you sick! You will also learn to turn it off and on at will so you can function in groups and help who you choose with real focus. Hope you guys will take my advice. P.S. You guys are 100% right. I love Linkin Park. My son listens to them because of me!

hey psy I got I question kk here it goes
Okay like sometimes I would feel another kid in my classes emotions but most of the time like I say what happends in the future like what you did in the super market with the blackout.
Ive known what happened before it happened this whole year itz like I planned it or somthing it feels wierd
Like for an example I told one of my friends that his girl will brake up with him in the early summer then they did
IT FEELS WIERD!
So what do you think is happening?!?!?!?!

YES! LOVE Twilight! 😁 Best book EVER! Anyways, my empathy has been really getting better! In crowds, I can handle it. It's kind of amusing actually. Especially at school.

Also, if I get stressed out, I've tried to imagine a whole bunch of that dirty liquid inside me draining out, and pure, clear and clean liquid splashing back into me.

I've actually gotten to the point where I can feel what the Christmas tree feels. 😆 On the way home, sure, aren't all trees miserable? I had this sudden urge to jump out the back trunk window and just stay there. (The tree was inside the car.) Once inside with all of the lights and ornaments, I could feel this excited vibe instead of this tense nervousness. Yes, I enjoy talking to trees. XD

LOL. I love linkin park as well. Its like, they understand. I love their songs, especially when I'm upset. Oh, and, IDK, maybe I would take over the world...hmm... *ideas.* oh, I'll try the auras thing. Thanx! I told you empathy was useful! Good job on the test thing! Hahaha, I just thought of something. Isn't it, like, evil to use our abilities to have fun...well, we suffer with them, so it shouldn't be...IDK, I've never hurt anyone with them. Hey, do you like Twilight, by Stephenie Meyer? 😉

You can learn to control it or at least minimize it at times. I can't go into a mall even with protection. When I had a huge change in vibration a few weeks ago I would go into gas station with minimal people. I could feel every vibration of sexual energy coming off the man in front of me. I could feel agitation of women in front of him. Now I have to make a point of grounding myself before I go inside a store, building etc. I visualize my feet growing roots into the eart to ground me. Then I envision a bubble of white light, then blue, then purple starting at my headencircling my body like a baloon. Do it 3 times to protect body, mind, soul. Must do 3 times to encompas it all. At Chuck e cheese one day. I had to envision myself in a disco ball so all the energy would reflect back off of me. But even today, as I was talking to a customer service women on the phone, suddenly I got very angry. I had no reason to be angry. It was from her. It is a learning process for me. But I have a fabulous teacher that is well versed in the psychic realm. My guilds also help to limit what comes through from spirits. It is not always appropriate or good timing to have a spirit trying to communicate. My guilds act as gate keepers. My house is also off limits. My 3 year old was seeing to many. It was scaring her, and we were both attracting spirits. None are allowed in my house unless my guild contacts me and says I need to speak with someone. None are allowed around my daughter while in the house. This is her safe place.

Whoo! Thanks again! 😁

Yup, I can see auras. Just the outer layer. I just sort of gaze at my hand sometimes to keep track of my color. It doesn't matter if you go cross eyed or not. (Haha.) I had to do that when trying to see it. So, place your hand a little above a white sheet of paper and gaze between your fingers or at a finger. It takes time. You have to concentrate on one thing for a while. Then, go to a site where it shows the meanings for the colors, and poof. 😜

Nah, I don't have a Tube. I stick with email and this.

Fun? Hmm... *thinks of the world domination bunny* Haha. 😁 Don't even get me started! Yeah, I won't take over the world, but I've GOT to see what I can do!

GO LINKIN PARK! I LOVE that band. I've actually been listening to them. ("Crawling" is my serious obsession at the moment). Something that has also been helping me is reading. If you read "Aimee" by Mary Beth Miller, you feel sad. DX But it's a good one. I just posted that there at random...

Oh yeah, this empathy stuff really helped me sort of on that test. The teacher has just a WEE bit of issues and always emphasizes things where it drives me nutters. Yeah, I came to a question I didn't know, and I could somewhat hear her saying the answer, so I hope I aced that one!

Thanks again, and sorry for the long eye-killing post.

oh yeah, the auras thing. A LOT of empaths can see them. Damn it, I can only see them when I get angry enough. Hahaha. Seriously, about the science classroom? Ha, that's how my science class was last year. Hey, do you like, have an youtube account? Oh, and, as time goes by, you'll find out that empathy can be very very...fun. [evil laughter. 😜] also, if you need relaxation or ways to express felings when you feel negative emotions, what has helped me a lot is listening to the band Linkin Park. They're very good for when you want to express yourself. Check them out. Nice to meet you!

HI! Thanks val! That's really helpful. Today, I can now figure out the personalities of the classroom and teachers! For example, in science, it's really light and positive in the room... (which is awesome). It's like I can step into a classroom and totally engulf myself into this whole personality thing.

Oh yeah, do auras have to do something with being an empath?

When I meant by having it not be the best thing in the world was that I hate the anger that I feel. Whenever someone's angry, I catch it and literally want to pull my hair out. It's the same for the opposites. Whenever I'm happy, I'm TRUELY happy.

But! I'm getting things now! 😊 I'm glad I've got most of my problems all figured out... Except for that history test I'm supposed to be studying for! Haha. XD

Thanks again! 😁

ahh, and yeah, don't be feaked if out of nowhere yo feel like yo've fallen in love or absolutely hate omeone for no good reason. Someimes, you might not even know them and want tobite their heads of. And the mood swings? Yeah, all parts of our lovely empathy. But on the good side of knews, you'll have a blast exploring what yo can do. I won't tell you anything about tha, I don't want to ruin it for you...

what do you mean, this isn't the best thing in the world? I wouldn't give up my empathy if I could! So... Welcome to the world of the different abilities enriched people. Haha. Anyhow, you need to know quite a lot of things. The first one is, empathy isn't something you can hold on to and put on a leash, sweetheart. Not right away anyhow. Plus, you might not even want to. You empathy allows you to be a healer, to understand people who seem unable to understand themselves, to save others. Sooo stop thinking negative about it, and about ways to control it. I've had it all my life, and is gotten me into a lot of trouble sometimes, but I has given me even more happiness. Grasp that your empathy isn't something aside from you. It IS you. You can't control it, and you can't get rid of it, but you can learn to use it for good. Type up any questions that you need answering, and I'll try to answer as fast as I can. Live life, enjoy it. Empaths are great people.:).

-val

i've been feeling things like this as well, but not as strong. Ust yesterday I found out it was called empathy. And I think I have some form of premonition. I think you just have to learn by yourself. Let thingsa happen, and use people on here for support. In a while, you'll be able to control it. I'm going through the same thing. I can sense people's feelings, but I don't feel it. Like I just look at someone and colors, textures and things flash in my eyes. So it's not normal, I know that. I just don't know what to do about it. If any of you have advice for me, please e-mail me at paramorechick17 [at] aol.com THANKS!

Thanks so much for your answers so far! I would also like to note that I sometimes get these moody periods. For no reason at all, I would get depressed, or something so small would bug me... Is this a result of empathy? 😕

I to canpt the emotions of others, but instead of just feeling what they feel, it mixes with my own emotions and that sometimes causes strange mixes. For instence, try being Infuriated, depressed, cheerful, jealous and in love all at once. (I am not going to say which of these emotions were mine at the time)

The best advise I can give is just let it happen, and if it gets overwhelming (like my example for instence) just go away for a bit and let it pass. This ability is very usefull at times, but at others, it can be very, very, VERY confusing. Sometimes, I don't even know which emotions era mine anymore.

Although, I have learned to filter the emotions to feel only the strongest one in the place were I am, but this comes with experience.

(By the way, sorry if I wrote alot, I just have quite a bit to say on the subject).

Ok, I read books to get answers to questions like these. I too am an empath and all I can tell is I've learned my own lessons about controlling my abilities through hard experience. However, reading one book in particular helped me to understand things a little better. It's called "Empowered by Empathy" by Rose Rosetree. Wish I could be more help but I'm still learning too.

wow this is awsome. I to can some what feel the emotions of others along with there energy just not in the same way as you but what might help is just letting it happen don't fight a gift that was given to you. You may not understand fully but you will one day trust me. Just relax and let it come by naturally don't fight it see what you are capable of. 😊